Difficulty finding people who are willing to commit

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Then how do you know it wasn't just a case of all of "them" being "unwilling to commit"?

The common denominator of one’s failing relationships is not always the peron who’s complaining; that’s a fallacy; at least it’s not necessarily something the complaining person is doing something wrong.

Let’s say for example you live in area where 99% of girls are religious - and you are the only atheist you know, if they all break up with you due to your atheism, that does not mean you are the common denominator - but THEIR religious intolerance is.

I hate anybody who practices their therapy on me.

Ex: phoned Sis, said Hi, she said, "I don't want to talk about that."
Me: I won the lottery.
Sis: I don't want to talk about that.
Me: Shopping today?
Sis: I don't want to talk about that.
Me: Your hair is on fire.
Sis: I don't want to talk about that.

I just want to be told what game we're playing before we play it.

Bro did one of those. He was practicing social skills at a busy gathering.
He walked up to a young man, flashed his new best smile, stuck out his hand
and said, "Hi, I'm Bob, how are you?" The young man said, "Dad, it's me."

You say you've met people not as interested in you as you were in them so you haven't met people you click with. If you click with someone on an emotional level (not physical like love at first sight because they're so stunning and cool) then you both feel it to the same degree. I've done the same mistake with exes and i've been lied to and cheated on because of it. I've relied on love at first sight that has only turned out to be very shallow and things couldn't work out because on a deeper level we were entirely different people who didn't get each other at all. Having the same interests is great but not really enough, the important thing is to have the same values. You can always pick up new interests anytime in life and you can do that together with a partner even.

I've met a few people in life i've clicked with on a deeper level. The difference is that with those people you can talk about anything and be very open because you know they will get you and they won't judge you and they are open the same way towards you. It's an amazing thing. For me those people have always been the people I had never expected that I would even like until we got to know each other. You can't judge a book by its cover. Try not to force a relationship, go out with people without expecting anything special, just for the sake of having a nice time. If it doesn't work out right away you can become friends and with time that can grow... Some of the best relationships starts out as friendship.