Would you date a guy who plays video games?

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To be fair I wish I could say it depends on the video game but then the same can be said for any medium and in reality I wouldn't care. Just not this one I once saw which was about shooting 'illegal aliens' at the border and called Alien Invader and was like a racist parody of Space Invaders...

Basically I find gamers carry a lot of the attitudes they learn into life with them, probably because they tend to be aspie and not know much about life. So I prefer they play something like Fifa to something with trashy women and racial stereotypes in it.

Also it's interesting how people play Sims. I had one girlfriend who used to delete the ladder and let them drown. Weirdly, she was ok but I'd watch out for people like that. I had one boyfriend who had a house full of bikini models called the b*****s and he wasn't. When I played Sims it was like I was looking after them unless I was playing an actual challenge like Asylum Challenge or Royal Kingdom challenge. Even then, I tried to help them succeed within the remits of the challenge.

I'm Kinsey 4 and aren't attracted to many males but if there was one I liked who liked video games I wouldn't mind. And if there was a woman who liked video games I wouldn't mind dating her either. So what? It's better than TV, at least it's active and you can do it together.

If he/she preferred Song Quiz on Alexa or Trivia Hero on Alexa I'd prefer it though. Cos then I'd have someone other than my moany stepdad to play at it and they might know a thing or two and offer me a challenge. Right now the only way to get a challenge is to go on one player mode which allows you to connect with a random stranger. (I'm on level 8 of Song Quiz)

I did have one aspie friend (platonic) I ditched though. All she did all the time was play video games. OK, if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend who you live with, they'll see you play. OK, sometimes you want to do a tournament with a friend who's into it (back in the day this was done face to face). OK, sometimes it's a casual game which is easy to understand and you can teach someone to play and they can pick it up easy. But if you invite your friend round or a partner you don't live with round and then proceed to play a certain type of video games without entertaining them at all, that's either rude or incredibly socially inept.

I'm a big reader and it would be the same with reading. If I had a date or a friend round, I wouldn't read a novel. If it was a date, we might share favourite poems. If it was a friend who liked poetry, the same although it's seen as a romantic thing by most people. I would talk books with them. But the point of dating or befriending someone is to spend time with them. If they were staying overnight or living with me, they'd have to accept some of it but unless it was a live in partner, I would cut down.

This is part of why I don't date. I prefer my time for myself.

I would not mind if a guy plays video games. I only play video games occasionally and I consider it a rather neutral hobby (in the sense that it neither makes me more nor less likely to like a guy).

There only is a problem if playing video games is the only thing (aside from sex) he likes to do all day and if he's obsessed to the point he will constantly talk about games whenever he's not playing and not want to talk about anything else. But those are a minority among video game playing guys.
The same goes for any other obsession though. If it excludes all other activities and topics the person will need someone obsessed about precisely the same thing.

Of course you'll find women who would not date a guy who plays video games. You'll find all sorts of people who have one specific requirement a partner needs to or mustn't do.
Playing video games, watching porn, reading fantasy novels, watching films with a 16+ age limit, watching Disney movies... - anything some people have negative stereotypes about.

https://www.aarp.org/health/conditions- ... -life.html
What to do: Test yourself by sitting on the floor, legs crossed, then rising back up (you can use your arms for balance, but you shouldn't have to use them or your knees to boost yourself back up).

Can the gamer pass this "old person's" fitness test?

I had a guy ask me once, "and you still play video games." As though i should have grown out of it. This guy played board games. I dont see the difference.

I would date a gamer as long as they didn't play violent and sexist games.

Is Super Mario considered violent for instance? I mean he jumps on creatures to smash them after all.
He also always saves the damsel in distress (yet the princess had more active roles in some newer games).

Only very very few games don’t involve any form of shooting/destroying, maybe only the point and click games and Sims.

Graphic violence. Like Grand Theft Auto or some shoot-em-up where you shoot an opponent and there's blood and guts everywhere. There's no need for it. It's gratuitous. I'm not sure I can relate to someone who plays a fantasy game where to get ahead you need to pimp out a hooker, or use a hooker then beat her up to get your money. What sicko enjoys that?

Games like that get an 18 rating in the UK.

GTA sucks, I saw it being played by my cousins and I don't understand why it's so popular. Mindless shooters and hookers, I never knew you can pimp a hooker to beat them in that game, whoa! how did this even got accepted by consumer protection laws? A Jack the Ripper game.


My fav current game is Dragon Quest XI.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IEqOoml7D7I

I've heard the judgement that guy made (although platonically, from people who were judging me) the other way round from video gamers cos one of my favourite things to do is play board games I don't play the cool ones I just play stuff like Yahtzee and Uno and Scrabble etc. Basically any old school board game.

(yeah I know not all these are board games I mean non technology based games or gambling games)

As long as it's not snakes and ladders or whatever the equivalent is in video games (in my day, it was Putt Putt) it's not immature. And I even played a snakes and ladders type game today at a really boring museum. Educational snakes and ladders, can I get any more like a 7 year old lol...

I would date someone who played video games (exc. GTA and similar) even though I have never played any myself.

I would be relieved they had their own interests and did not expect us to do everything together.

There’s way more to gta then that, it’s not even a part of it it’s just something people do. Similar to buying food then robbing the store to get your money back. They did it to get their money back which is pocket change in the game. Some feminist saw some people did it then make it out to be the only point of the game. Gta games have long well thought out engaging stories. You can’t pimp out anyone in any gta game by the way. You can pick up a hooker sometimes on the street, or go to a strip club and if you are nice and bond with the stripper she offers to come do strips at your house. Basically stuff people legally do in real world minus the hooker. You can get drunk and high too.
I like the cars. I spent $150 on gta buying old cars like a 1968 corvette stingray. I’d get on and drive them around except people always tried to blow them up

I play battlefield a lot and people bleed when shot or killed in wars. You get dirt and blood on your face sometimes and when someone dies there’s a small pool of blood next to them.
Besides that I play ark and breed animals cause their babies are super cute. I give them names and then get attached to them.

Here’s some baby wolves


Baby jerboa


Some of my otters

You can’t pimp hookers. You can have sex with one and beat them just like you can beat random people walking around.

Yeah, no thanks.
Anyone who lists one of their main interests as video games gets no interest from me.

Wouldn't bother me one bit unless it was obsessive & they never ever did anything else. They'd just have to accept that I don't care about video games, almost never play them, and am terrible at most of them if I do play. Some of my friends/FWBs are gamers, actually. Like sly said, it's just their chosen form of mindless entertainment.

I am that guy. But i have other interests as well and don't sit for an entire year and play games. Sometimes i can get a bit extreme and play for days, but if a girl jumped my lap and said take me, i'd take off my VR headset in a heartbeat.

This is the reason why i prefer younger women, the frequency of gamer girls are higher there.

There are other problems that are worse that makes women repelled, many write on their profile pages that they don't want smokers or people with drinking problems.

Everyone is an individual and different. If a girl writes "i like sports team X", i quickly move on, because that means that she would drag me to public events and have a TV so she could watch hours of boring sports and i'd hear it. I remember my father watching hockey/soccer for 2-3 hours, the audience that were there were screaming and the commentators were going nuts (for nothing) and i couldn't even begin to understand what was so interesting about it.

Yes, but I wouldn't go out with someone in the real world who lived like that. All of what you've described here as justification for the game is disgusting to me.



Yes, I would never ever date a real life soldier. I'm not dating a guy who enjoys even simulated violence. It also disgusts me.

Just because a game has good storyline and puzzle elements doesn't mean I'm going to suffer the disgusting elements.