jimmyjazzuk wrote:
Ive been good friends with a girl for 7 years who has been hitched but recently me and her have become single around the same time. Im interested in going out with her and she appears to want to just be freinds still. She says all these nice things about me like I have a nice face, tall, kind and funny and that id be a good catch for someone. She drops these hints that she doesnt "sleep around" because she is too emotional. I respect that and agree. Im guessing that is the infamous 'friend zoning', which im fine with as we are great friends and she is good company.
My thoughts are that my last relationship was built on a friendship of 3 years.
My current relationship is with someone I knew for about three and a half years. Started out as a business relationship, then became a friendship.
jimmyjazzuk wrote:
The internet would have you believe that is not common at all and I should give up on this current situation.
Is buddies to lovers more common wih aspie women? Are they slower to let down barriers than the average?
Perhaps. I'm not sure what's "average." But I think it does behoove us to be slow to trust people.
jimmyjazzuk wrote:
Mutual friends say we would make a great couple!
Have these same mutual friends said this to her, or just to you?
jimmyjazzuk wrote:
Should I just accept the state of play as it is and look for someone else and keep her as a cherished friend?
I must say I havent told her how i feel, only dropped hints via compliments and things. I had talked myself out of it as she has been obsessing about another guy but it looks like hes not returning the feelings and shes getting fed up.
If she's getting fed up, perhaps now (or very soon) might be the right time to suggest, tentatively, that maybe you and she should consider the possibility of a relationship?
Alas, I don't know enough about the specifics of your situation to give you any good advice on how best to approach this.
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10 Aug 2019, 10:40 pm
