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jfberge
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06 Nov 2007, 6:38 pm

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Sorry to ramble on. It is still rather fresh in my mind, and I am finding it difficult to contain myself. Hopefully, it gives some advice.


Sounds like that worked out nicely. Congrats! I can relate to your excitement.

The last kiss I had has been the closest to a "natural" moment. We'd been slow dancing for a while, and were quite close as it was. It felt like the right time, but I wasn't absolutely sure, so I just kept dancing with her, cheek to cheek. It was only when I was leaving her place and we said our goodbyes that I thought "now!," but she was apparently a step ahead of me, and was already leaning in for the kiss. It was perfect, and easily the smoothest I've ever been in such a situation.



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06 Nov 2007, 9:39 pm

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After seeing a movie (Stardust), I was giving her a ride back to her car, and I asked if her hand is cold. She said it sort of was. I then used this excuse to hold her hand (rather ingenious, if I do say so myself). We then held hands for the rest of the drive.


I can relate to that part of it all... one time a woman i knew was feeling really cold overall and I used it as an excuse to hold her in my arms... one of the happiest moments in my so-called "life", actually... although I do put out a lot of body heat (meaning I am, literally, a "hot" guy), so I can be used as a human blanket... of which I don't really mind (so long as it's a woman I'm dealing with...)



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07 Nov 2007, 1:41 am

Just so I understand this....you supposed "aspies" are talking about how you have initiated kissing more than one girl? Apparently you have found the aspie-antidote! Forgive me for being a little skeptical, but if you're that advanced socially, are you really an aspie??? Or do you just show a few traits here and there? ..... maybe it's just me and I'm way off



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07 Nov 2007, 2:09 am

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Just so I understand this....you supposed "aspies" are talking about how you have initiated kissing more than one girl? Apparently you have found the aspie-antidote! Forgive me for being a little skeptical, but if you're that advanced socially, are you really an aspie??? Or do you just show a few traits here and there? ..... maybe it's just me and I'm way off


You can progress, but still be behind.
Learning social interaction is a bit like learning a new science, only much harder. It's like the English language of science (as in, there's a lot of irregularities, special rules, nonsense etc. etc.).
I'm still not fluent. None of us here are. It also doesn't mean we'll lose our old ways. You can learn Chinese and how to interact with Chinese people, but deep down you're an American/Canadian/Brit/whatever.



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07 Nov 2007, 2:18 am

Also, just because you are aspie, does not mean that there cannot be one or two moments in your life where it can work out, somehow.


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07 Nov 2007, 9:24 am

CompSciMan2 wrote:
Just so I understand this....you supposed "aspies" are talking about how you have initiated kissing more than one girl? Apparently you have found the aspie-antidote! Forgive me for being a little skeptical, but if you're that advanced socially, are you really an aspie??? Or do you just show a few traits here and there? ..... maybe it's just me and I'm way off


I've gotten a lot better over the years at knowing simple, appropriate things to do and say. I also think some of the success I've had is due to my appearance, since the girls who've approached me couldn't have known anything else about me.



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08 Nov 2007, 5:47 am

Good tips I've learned:

The Mystery Kiss Close

Get her to kiss you. At the end of my first meeting with a girl, I like to give her a mock-impatient, faux-expectant look while pointing at my cheek, then say something like "ahem..." or "aren't you forgetting something?" I have never had a woman NOT kiss me when I did that.

If she is shy but wants to kiss you, this is a very non-threatening way for her to show affection for you. In fact, it evinces nothing but good feelings from her. After she kisses me, I say something like, "that's better", and look DOWN into her eyes, giving her my best evil grin.

This is a good time to draw her close, and just enjoy the feeling of having your protective arm around her. She will feel comfortable, secure, and turned on. Depending on the mood, I'll either go for a kiss on the lips, or cradle her face in my hands and kiss her on the forehead before slapping her on the butt and telling her to hit the road as I drop a wink and walk away. I guarantee she will be both shocked and delighted.


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