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JohnHopkins
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18 Aug 2008, 8:11 pm

Is your avatar a picture of you, Sedaka?



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18 Aug 2008, 9:05 pm

Sedaka wrote:
if i were in a "real" relationship... and found out my SO was having internet relations with someone else... i'd be peeved. that in itself suggests there is some substance to these sorts of things.


Of course. Online romance ends when real romance begins.

But even juggling two online romances, I can't help but feel that it would be wrong, even if neither of them was anything official. I believe that there's an emotional reality to online friendships, and even though much of it is imagined, both people involved still are emotionally affected by what is imaginary as much as what is real between them. So both people involved still feel that emotional reality.



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18 Aug 2008, 10:49 pm

I think that, like with any type of relationship, it depends on what "rules" you set for it. It's not cheating if you sleep with someone who's not your partner if you and your partner have agreed on an open relationship.

Play by what you and the " other," online or not, agree upon ahead of time. If you don't, that's cheating, seeing as cheating is, by definition, not playing by the rules.

This is all purely speculative, as I have never been in an online relationship.


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18 Aug 2008, 11:08 pm

JohnHopkins wrote:
Is your avatar a picture of you, Sedaka?


No, but it reminds me of when I had purple hair.


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