A Self-Made-Man girl discovers that life as a man is harder

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that's not what sharing emotions mean. see most people show happiness to any one and everyone. they don't walk around unemotional look on their face. sharing emotions means crying when sad, talking about why you're upset, sharing your fears etc.

Didn't you say you usually get only first dates? Perhaps it is a bit early to share such emotions then.

Sure, and that's exactly what it means in theory; but in practice, I know of no woman who is attracted to rage-filled, wild-eyed, angry men, or to weepy, teary-eyed, depressed men, either.

While women may say that they want a man who is "in touch with his feelings", the only feelings that they want him to express openly are happiness and contentment.

....and expressing his love for her in front the entire world. *vomiting*

Probably because they want men whose real feelings are happiness and contentment---and who have good reasons to feel that way.

That was so sweet!

I would say this is true.

HOWEVER, I don't believe any men would want an angry woman or one who is constantly weepy. I was watching this one Big Brother season 8 and this girl was extremely emotional crying at everything that happened and she was made fun of by girls and guys alike. I couldn't even take it anymore. They wanted to evict her because of her extreme emotions. So I don't think any person really likes mad or sad all the time.

I wouldn't so much dislike a weepy woman as think I'm taking advantage of her.

Official dates yes. But I've had months long and year long almost relationships with women.

Then they should give the same. So only happy no crying, no complaining about work, famiky, friends, no complain ing at all .

Not all the time omg no one can be angry or sad all the time . but they don't want a guy to every share his emotions then wonder why men kill themselves . because we have emotions just like women and if you keep it pent up your going to break or snap eventually. Only a amount of time.

Getting a date of course is hardly the only part of it, sure that bit can be easy....but I can say more often than not relationships I attempt just end up as me being used for a while. Cause I guess I get the audacity to think someone actually would genuinely be interested in me as a person the last one had me thinking we where starting to have something going on...then like clockwork I go over one night, am on my period and inform him so we didn't 'have sex' well next time I tried to hook up with him it was 'oh sorry we can't have anything ongoing, I've actually been seeing someone else to that I think things may get serious with'. Perhaps neurotypical women are better at reading these situations and not falling for such things.

I personally cannot initiate interactions usually with new people...its not a 'oh I think guys should do the chasing' sort of mindset. If I could count the number of times I've wanted to give someone a compliment or start a conversation or express interest and simply can't due to some weird block(probably to do with the autism) It would be a lot.

I suppose that is why sometimes these thread irk me...its as though the very real difficulties autistic females also have with interactions an initiating them is put in the same catagory as neurotypical women who more have an ingrained mindset that 'guys should ask girls out' which prevents them initiating...rather than a condition they didn't choose that makes it difficult.

Yes, figured most people knew there where other aspects of life than dating....thus even if it was proven all females have it easier than all males in dating/relationships across the board, that would say nothing about other aspects of life. Such as physical health, mental health, working, parenting, financial situation ect, you know the parts of life that aren't dating.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 20 Jul 2015, 2:02 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yes, but this is L&D. Here, we talk about relationships and dating.

Sweetleaf, have you ever been in a relationship and have you been on more than a few dates in your life?

A lot of guys on this forum hardly get any dates ever.

Last edited by 314pe on 20 Jul 2015, 2:08 am, edited 1 time in total.

I am not the one that put 'life as a man is harder' perhaps 'dating as a man is harder' would have made more sense though I don't entirely agree. And yes I've been on dates and have attempted relationships...and well single now and have spent most of my life single. At this point I suppose I am just fed up with how all the dating senerios and attempted relationships have gone so have more been actively avoiding any chances of dates/relationships.


Also this is an autism forum, here we talk about people on the spectrum...females on the spectrum do not 'have it easier' than neurotypical males when it comes to dating like you'd think is the case reading this thread and generalizations being applied to 'all' females/women.

Would you say that a typical WP.net woman is just as successful (or less successful) in relationships as a typical WP.net man?