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11 Mar 2023, 2:40 am

Regarding having more chance with other ethnicities, take a look at that:
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Ps. going for other ethnicities is not lowering standards in any mean.



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11 Mar 2023, 2:41 am

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What do you mean?

I don't know what Alpha / Chad is, and why you say it's fire.



I believe that CD is trying to say that he thinks Thom Yorke is an Alpha male (aka Chad) and he really likes the song. I have no idea why he would roll his eyes at your comment though ?



Ah. Thanks.

I had to google Alpha / Chad. I can't say I think of Yorke that way but that's cd's call.

I like the song too so let's go -


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11 Mar 2023, 2:42 am

while i broke up with her already, its over, i know i will feel forever bitter and resentful that i didn't have my first long-term relationship, lasted like 16 months, until i was 33.



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11 Mar 2023, 2:48 am

We all know that "Creep" is ironic, right?
He's being sarcastic and taunting his girl for thinking that way about him.
It's an attack on her, rather than being self-deprecating.


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11 Mar 2023, 3:50 am

Recidivist wrote:
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What do you mean?

I don't know what Alpha / Chad is, and why you say it's fire.



I believe that CD is trying to say that he thinks Thom Yorke is an Alpha male (aka Chad) and he really likes the song.


Yeah ^^^ this



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12 Mar 2023, 2:32 pm

If it helps any, I have an autistic friend who is hopelessly in love with me (unfortunately for him I'm not into men), and while we are friends now..... When we first met, he creeped me out. Which I feel bad about, because it turns out he's also autistic and severely at that. I can mask fairly well, he can't. It's not so much that I find him embarrassing (I don't, we go places quite a lot), it's that he came off like a creeper for the first couple years. (We attend the same church, so I kept seeing him.)


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13 Mar 2023, 4:30 pm

even though people will always say never compare ourselves to others or comparison is the thief of joy, i know i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful, towards 20-something couples, especially couples in the 18-25 age range, when people are at their peak youth



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13 Mar 2023, 4:32 pm

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even though people will always say never compare ourselves to others or comparison is the thief of joy, i know i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful, towards 20-something couples, especially couples in the 18-25 age range, when people are at their peak youth

Just because people are in a relationship doesn’t mean that they’re happy. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.



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13 Mar 2023, 6:23 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
even though people will always say never compare ourselves to others or comparison is the thief of joy, i know i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful, towards 20-something couples, especially couples in the 18-25 age range, when people are at their peak youth

Just because people are in a relationship doesn’t mean that they’re happy. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.


nevertheless, i would have loved to have experienced that while being that young, sadly never can



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13 Mar 2023, 8:04 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
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even though people will always say never compare ourselves to others or comparison is the thief of joy, i know i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful, towards 20-something couples, especially couples in the 18-25 age range, when people are at their peak youth

Just because people are in a relationship doesn’t mean that they’re happy. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.


But if it is too bad you can always end it. You have that option. If no one wants to be in a relationship with you, you just can't decide to make one happen. That is a situation where you don't have an option.



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13 Mar 2023, 10:14 pm

ProfessorJohn wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
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even though people will always say never compare ourselves to others or comparison is the thief of joy, i know i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful, towards 20-something couples, especially couples in the 18-25 age range, when people are at their peak youth

Just because people are in a relationship doesn’t mean that they’re happy. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.


But if it is too bad you can always end it. You have that option. If no one wants to be in a relationship with you, you just can't decide to make one happen. That is a situation where you don't have an option.


well its different for women because they get pursued, approached, propositioned on, men will never have that luxury



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13 Mar 2023, 10:57 pm

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As men who are social awkward are more likely to be narcissist so you got a bad deal tbf. Not saying all social awkward men are, but its more likely so women tend to avoid them.


Isn't that generalizing too?



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14 Mar 2023, 9:31 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
ProfessorJohn wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
even though people will always say never compare ourselves to others or comparison is the thief of joy, i know i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful, towards 20-something couples, especially couples in the 18-25 age range, when people are at their peak youth

Just because people are in a relationship doesn’t mean that they’re happy. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.


But if it is too bad you can always end it. You have that option. If no one wants to be in a relationship with you, you just can't decide to make one happen. That is a situation where you don't have an option.


well its different for women because they get pursued, approached, propositioned on, men will never have that luxury


The question is that do they women /want/ to be pursued by a guy? I mean yeah, I can agree with you it happens more with woman than men, but often it’s unwanted attention. I don’t want a stranger coming up to me and asking me out. That’s weird (to me) and maybe other socially awkward girls. When that’s happened, it’s either been a joke, or someone I don’t want. Again, this is just me telling my own thoughts and views. I’m not a normie woman.


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14 Mar 2023, 10:08 am

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I don’t want a stranger coming up to me and asking me out. That’s weird (to me) and maybe other socially awkward girls. When that’s happened, it’s either been a joke, or someone I don’t want.


I can certainly understand that. Once I got into High School and College, if I ever heard that some girl liked me, I figured it was a setup for a joke on me, like it was in elementary school and junior high. Those bad experiences are very hard to overcome. I still feel rather undesirable to this day because of them, and have a hard time believing anyone could be interested in me or find me attractive.



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14 Mar 2023, 11:07 am

^ I'm sorry that happened to you. It was mean, and those people were immature d*cks.


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14 Mar 2023, 11:15 am

ProfessorJohn wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
even though people will always say never compare ourselves to others or comparison is the thief of joy, i know i will always be jealous and bitter, resentful, towards 20-something couples, especially couples in the 18-25 age range, when people are at their peak youth

Just because people are in a relationship doesn’t mean that they’re happy. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.


But if it is too bad you can always end it. You have that option. If no one wants to be in a relationship with you, you just can't decide to make one happen. That is a situation where you don't have an option.


Not always, as one may get too attached and blind to the abuse before it is too late; if kids and/or financial dependency are involved in a marriage then ending it becomes more difficult; some people get stuck in bad relationships.