So many interests, yet no girl seems interested.

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Interests, hobbies, activities, memberships... these are all qualities, well and good. But they don't define a person, or give insight into who they are, any more than one truly could glean the scale and detail of a tree based on a pile of leaves, twigs, branches and wood chips. That you have such variety and knowledge gives you a good starting point; integration is essential, however, to give those things a context, a canvas for all things to have perspective. Otherwise, one might as well date a spreadsheet. Not meaning to be glib, but make a comparison.


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Oh yea, college girls are so nasty, they ask guys to come in the room with them lol they are kinda like the college guys, just not as extreme. Talk to all girls whenever you are comfortable, whether it is the drunk party girl, nerd, normal/average/ unattractive (make sure you show no interest, but be nice...BE NICE), ...so just talk to random girls. if u cant bring yourself to do it, then dont. Just talk to whoever makes you comfortable.
High school girls are catty and they live with their parents. So when girls live with their parents they dont act as mature as they do when they are alone in college. Stay away from stuff you are uncomfortable with unless someone asks you to come, and if someone invites you somehwere, just go, even if it is a place where they smoke pot and do all that weird stuff, you never know, you best friend may be at that party.

That's cuz they have to focus. Girls take a guy's focus off of everything. he has to call her, think about her, hang out with her....so yea, maybe sports guys werent the way lol. But the sports guys who chase girls all day, they end up being bums because they arent focused.
I remember this football player at my school and all the girls liked him. He was big, black, handsome and muscular. but guess what
He was a virgin. That was the rumor. He was in honors classes and he went to dances and stuff like that and he talked to girls, but he never really dated. I believe his dad was probably on his ass with the whole "Girls are nothing but trouble" thing
and they are in many cases, because if he were to pay attention to the girls and start having sex and being cool (which he already was) he wouldnt have been focused on football and getting good grades, and he wouldve end up getting some girl pregnant, then breaking up with her, and then life would start kicking him in the ass..
and he'll start to notice that women dont want him because he's a bum and has no money.
This is why its good for high school kids, especially young men to stay focused.
Those NFL guys were probably virgins and stuff too in high school, but they were focused, now the ugliest NFL player gets a sworm of women around him.
all because he was focused and didnt give in to peer pressure.

so stay focused and forget about the girls, all that stuff will come either in or after college. mor like after college. ok

Update: I joined Facebook back in July and I'm on OKCupid & Zoosk which is helping to expand my circle a bit! Not many girls are biting but I think it's a start. Having a blue-collar job overthe summer didn't hurt either.

Hello! Right here! Not in your neighborhood, not Christian, but likes to read your posts.

Don't put a ton of emotional energy into something that just boils down to the pursuit of sex.

I'm sure this post was meant with good intention, but it seems to be missing a crucial point: the college years are the time when most people mature socially and emotionally and are much more open-minded than they were in high school. I think that's what the author of the "college is better for most of us" meant.

Correct -- a lot of the artificial or immature social barriers that exist in high school and separate us tend to fall as we are forced to live with complete strangers and get along, and as our tastes broaden and mature.

I actually got used more in college than high school, but there were a lot of reasons behind that (I was more social in college than high school), and as I learned my lessons from those experiences, the using diminished.

I still look back at my senior year at my university as one of the best years of my life. My recipe for this was:
--Living on campus
--becoming involved in organizations on campus (you meet people this way)
--eat meals with your roommates and friends consistently (it doesn't have to be 100%, but make it at least 70% of the time)
--do activities with your rooommates/dorm mates

It was that simple.

Yes, some things can screw this up -- You can end up with awful roommates who aren't into you (happened to me one year), you can end up with awful people in your dorm (happened to me that same year), maybe you can't afford to live at the University (at which point, you may have a whole other slew of financial issues to deal with that make some of the friendship problems pale in comparison).

Going to a school that is all-engineering (or some other such career field that is mostly) is a trade-off that the person who goes there chooses -- Yes, you get specialized education (which may or may not be offered at other comparable liberal-arts Universities), but you miss out on the social angle. The responsibility for that choice is on the person who chose it -- no one is forced to go to college. Plenty of other schools have engineering and Comp. sci majors, and still have plenty of women on campus. In fact, most campuses (excluding specialty schools) are a majority female.

Own your choices.

That's lulzy.



That's even more lulzy.

Update 2: I just started wearing contact lenses for the 1st time. From experience has changing from glasses to contacts gotten anyone here more attention from women?

Oh, yes, I did observe that in my college as well. Everyone that attends a college does so by their own choice (sometimes coerced by parents, but that's a small fraction), as opposed to high school, which is compulsory until 16 in the US. Also, attending an engineering school really helped despite its obvious concentration of male students, as most of the students (of either gender) were much more like-minded and less likely to be antagonistic towards me just because I was "different"... if anything, being normal made you the "different" one in my school...

Yeah, financial issues can be a real pain in the ass. I personally could have gone to a different school and/or lived on campus, but I wanted to minimize my debt. And now the true payoff happens, because I'm graduating with only $24,000 in debt. I can wipe that out within a year of finding a half-decent job.

It's not like it would have mattered to me... most of college life (even on my engineering-based campus) was still the drinking/partying atmosphere, which I still am skittish around. The rest of the folks were career-minded and not really in a position to socialize much (I would certainly fall closer to the latter). Maybe I could have gone to divinity school or something like that (Princeton is a 2 hour drive, not close enough to commute, but still near home that I wouldn't be all by myself), but still, it seems to me college life is either party-based or career-based. Call me boring or old-fashioned if you want, but I just want to meet someone nice i can settle down with. Most people nowadays don't want that...

I do, and I wouldn't change it even if i could. Now that a degree is on the way (and a really nice recommendation letter from one of my professors), the benefits are really starting to show. But I'm still a long way from being able to financially support myself. Still, it would be nice to not have to be alone all the time...

TOS, one thing that is nice about college is that you meet like-minded people and people with the same goals in life. At a school that had more women, you would have a chance to meet a lot of women on the same "wavelength" as you --- I met a couple of prospective wives/GF's during that period. So that's the part of the social life that maybe you are missing out on -- you don't like parties (fine) or drinking (fine), but just being in class and doing study sessions with girls really gets the social connections going....

Also, I suspect the next thing you might mention RE: the above is getting used -- been there too. It's just a learning process RE: figuring out who wants to study to learn (and who is using you for that) vs. who just wants to study so that they can be around you.

God I miss those days...