The pursuit of beauty, and why I've been left out (long)

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I can attest to that..

I've been with women that want nothing more than to please me, I've been with other women that won't even touch me but expect goddess treatment, avoid generalising because how can you expect to be treated as an individual otherwise?

I have to agree with the original point regarding most women being obesessed with their 'beauty'. This is why I was attracted to gay women a couple of times, and didn't understand why. They liked the way they looked, and didn't fuss over their hair, etc. Embarassing though, to be told, "ya dolt, can't you tell I'm a lesbian?'

Agreed, there are some NT women that are obsessed with their own beauty and what a man can buy them.

As an Aspie, I only become obesessed with my own beauty when I'm going to meet a date. Why is this? Because my social skills fail me much of the time and I rely on the way I'm viewed by my date to at least give him something to look at when he gets bored with my limited topics of interest. So it makes the rest of the evening at least tolerable.

I don't need a man for the things he can buy me. I need a man who will be as interested in the things I'm interested in as I am, as well as opening me up to the things he's interested in. My moral compass is strong, my interests are strong, my obsessions are sometimes short lived. When those criteria are not all coming together for me, I lose interest in the whole concept of the date and who the man is fairly quickly.

NT's see me as too picky. I'm not sad being alone. I know what I want and that turns a lot of men off because they can't see how I would fit into their world. They can only see how I would fit between their sheets and since I don't just sleep with anyone, it's difficult for me to date long term.

One man told me that I already have everything in my life sorted out and since I don't need him, he didn't see the point in dating anymore. I realize that my views on life and what it means to be a good partner are not what is actually happening in the world, but if I settle, I will never be happy.

Do all men need to be needed? Even Aspie men?

I'm not a girl. But by this point I wasn't thinking "sexist pig."

I was thinking about how you're going to handle things when you realize that the truth is so much more terrible than this.

Lo mortal, behold woman's true form and dispair!

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