Flirting with a girl who thinks you are "cute"

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27 May 2010, 2:44 pm

Sound, you remind me of David DeAngelo.
Your tactics therefore closely resemble mine, although mine are probably more antisocial.

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02 Jun 2010, 12:25 am

I don't mean to revive a dead post, but . . .

Sophist wrote:

Being female, it's not a bad thing if a woman has some puppy-version attraction to a guy. The problem is if that's ONLY how she sees him, then she'll only want to be mothering him and probably won't be thinking of him as bf material.

I have the unique misfortune of having raised a teenage girl (long story short, I'm the rare aspie who is the most stable person in my family, and I ended up raising my niece).

Let me tell you now: girls don't go for puppy cuteness in guys. Being a nice guy only works if she has an Asian mother. Trust me, I've been there. The Asian mother loved me.

Less the Asian mother, girls go for guys they think are cool. Wannabe badasses are awash in cute ass until about age 25, at which point they've run out of utility companies that will turn the electricity on for them without a $500 deposit.

Qualities girls will explore at least once in a guy: mohawks, tattoos, drug problems, anger problems, control issues, money issues, commitment to sleeping until a time elementary schools let out, going to college parties, guys whose age makes sex a jailable offense, homelessness, chronic joblessness, poor hygeine.

Your only hope with any given girl is that she'll try to find as many of these qualities in an individual guy or a handful of guys and get it out of her system quickly. These women often end up with two bastards and then end up collaring a nice guy and birthing him an heir in exchange for raising demon spawn that are not his seed.

This is why, absolutely, you must discuss birth control early and often.

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02 Jun 2010, 6:32 pm

Sound wrote:

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Also, don't let rejections get to you. Ask her to join you at whatever with a smile on your face, and if/when she opts out, don't let that smile leave your face, and resist the impulse to shrink away. Keep talking to her with a positive attitude, as if nothing bad happened. This is very important for many reasons, but explaining them would deserve it's own post.

I dont believe it I asked an NT who was old enough to know the answer if a man asks you to photograph his potting shed is it asking you out he said HE DIDNT KNOW :wall:

Never ask an NT for advice is the best advice I can give you ! !! !! !! !! ! Oh and he didnt smile he asked defiantly do that I probably would have known then !

Glad you did revive an old post even if I am pissed off now :cry:

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03 Jun 2010, 2:07 pm

Been following this thread for a couple of weeks, and just wanted to thank Sound and Metal Man for their contributions! Guy's, your information is really helping me improve my understanding of how i should go about getting a girlfreind, thanks!

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04 Jun 2010, 8:43 am

You are welcome and I am glad you like the advice. Getting a girlfriend is not as hard as most Aspies think it is.

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04 Jun 2010, 9:02 am

Metal_Man wrote:

You are welcome and I am glad you like the advice. Getting a girlfriend is not as hard as most Aspies think it is.

As I've also said, getting a girlfriend is fairly easy, the part to concentrate on is building a successful relationship, that's something I've never got right, probably because as of yet I haven't met the right girl to do it with.

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04 Jun 2010, 11:01 am

Maintaining a long term relationship is the part I still have some difficulties with.

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13 Jun 2010, 2:54 am

FerrariMike_40 wrote:

OK, I am in a situation right now where I like this girl at school. Hopefully other people who have my same condition can offer some advise?

There is this girl in my PE class who I think is really hot, but I have only made small talk with her a couple of times. The other day in PE, our class was playing baseball which is my favorite sport and I am pretty good at it. When class was over, and our teacher said to go in, I went to go pick up. The girl saw this and she said "Yeah, go Mike!" and her friend laughed and said "aw, he's so cute" and I didn't want to interrupt so I just went and got the base. The next day I started some conversation and we talked about playing sports and even getting jobs and cars. She's really nice and the conversation went great, no awkward silences or anything and we were both smiling.

I am pretty sure she thinks I am kind of innocent and sweet, which is what a lot of people say. I'm very tall and skinny, and people say I am good looking, I am very clean and take good care of my appearance (sorry if I sound like I am bragging) But people always mistake me for a freshman, my voice is kind of nasal and I am very mellow and nice to everyone, so I guess that is how she sees me which I think is a good thing. I'm 16 and never had a girlfriend, but the past couple of years I have gotten much better with social skills and have made a lot of friends.

What would be some good things to talk about with her? Should I talk to her on Facebook or try to get her number for texting or something like that? I know I sound really inexperienced, I kind of am lol :oops:

TIA

print out this message and read it to her. it's an experiment, you will not embarass yourself, it will be interesting for her to hear.

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13 Jun 2010, 7:24 am

DO NOT PRINT THIS OUT AND SHOW IT TO HER!! !! !! !! !! !! Keep doing what you have been doing and things will work out fine.

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