Qualities you DON'T want in a guy/girl?

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I know this person who expects someone to be 100% emotionally self-sufficient.

Here is what she believes:

1. Asking for advice on an online forum signifies that one has no direction and can't communicate.

2. One must never need emotional support.

3. If someone offers you help or assistance, you should reject their offer because accepting it signifies weakness and dependence and neediness.

Stupidity
Intolerance
Racism
Sexism
Weakness of Character
Lack of drive
Cruelty/nastiness/bullying behaviour
Laziness
Immaturity
Shallow mindedness
Disinterest in intellectual discussion.


There are probably others, but these are the first that come to mind. That being said, I am willing to compromise to a certain extent of course.

I just try to focus on being the best person I can be.

I don't want someone disrespectful or self-centered, or think they're always right.
They can't be immoral either...
I'd rather not someone who was particularly religious, but if they were open minded about my beliefs (or lack thereof), than fine.
Also rather not have someone who was argumentative, or cocky, or pushy....

STDs
Too serious
Never says anything offensive
A scary dad
Insists on cooking for me, but is a terrible cook who will get revenge on me if I don't choke it all down
No hygiene
Closed minded
Kids
Dishonest

Judgemental-ism, I really need a P type person

Narrow mindedness

Lack of imagination and curiosity

Passive-Aggressive tendencies

Smoking(I start coughing when I see it on tv!)

ToughDiamond's 10 steps to turn-off:

1. Too sexualised in public
2. Too young/old
3. Weak on compassion
4. Too judgemental
5. Too dishonest
6. Too right-wing
7. Too mercenary
8. Too disloyal, sexually or otherwise
9. Incapable of resolving conflicts
10. Too careless with their health

But there must be hundreds of other things that could blow it for me. For example there's the degree to which you want to share your life with a partner - some people want the relationship to be everything, others want to share hardly anything. I'm somewhere in the middle and would feel respectively invaded and deprived if I were to get serious about anybody who was out nearer the edge. There's all kinds of questions about what you see as a matter of your own personal freedom and what you'd expect to have to agree with your partner.

Wears too much make-up (it puts me off)
Drinks a lot
Smokes
Is nasty
Rude
Verbally abusive
Doesn't respect me
Always wants sex (I'm definitely not ready for that)
Selfish
Thoughtless
Uncaring

Here goes:

--asexual

--has a problem with oral sex, kink, or fetishes

--too right-wing

--too left-wing

--not goal-oriented

--unemployed because of laziness or lack of motivation (if it's a direct result of bad economic times or being in school, that's different)

--NT

Someone who doesn't make a frigging checklist for relationships.