25 and never had a girlfriend

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i'm 21 and i've had a few girlfriends. however, with my previous girlfriends, they let me know their feelings pretty well right off the bat. i broke up with my last gf roughly 2 years ago. it seems like ever since i've tried to talk to girls or flirt around but nothing's worked out.

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She was nice to talk to though I usually keep to myself and let other people make the move first. I never found her physically attractive though. We hung out twice after the week course. The first time was a drink and the second was a trip to the cinema but she brought her niece and after that she sent me a couple of crazy text messages saying if I would like to marry her. At first I thought she was kidding but more kept coming and it kinda freaked me out so in the end I don't really know what happened, she was kidding or testing me to see if I was ready for this type of thing and thats what sort of kept me away from dating for a long time. I don't even know if I want a girlfriend now. I do like women of course but I don't think I can do the whole comitment thing or fall in love and then comes marriage and families and that really scares me. I love the people around me, my parents and sister though they do drive me crazy sometimes but with total strangers I don't know. I want to at least lose my virginity sometime in the future, but I may still want to choose the life of a single person. Sure I might reach one point in my life where I could get depressed but at least I'll have my family.

Well, I'm 32 and never even been on a date. I consider myself a homoromantic demisexual but, for the sake of the normal people, I just say I am gay. My main problems are a disconnect from others and my lack of making any effort in getting to know them. I dislike the idea thar we have to function under the pretense of "This is a date. I'm out with you because I think you are cute." I'd rather just make friends with someone, get to know them, and then see if an attraction develops. Unfortunately NOBODY normal works this way.

I just don't know if I am even made for a relationship at this point. I can't imagine giving up my time and space for someone else.

The best thing to do is use meetup.com to find a group that focuses on dating and relationships in your area. Trust me, they're out there especially in metropolitan areas. You may also want to check out David DeAngelo's materials. I've learned a whole lot from him.

I think it's opposite than the techno folks would have you think. There's more groups in the city, true. Yet they are more transient, dating wise. You gotta grab her number quick because she likely will not be there next week. And even if you get it, there's no friendzone foundation of being around one another.

Small towns, she's going to this gym class for months. There's fewer guys competing for her attention.

I'm referring to groups that are designed to help men get into relationships or help them with their existing relationships. I attend one every Friday night where I live.

I am 41, a virgin, never had a girlfriend and never dated. What I regret is that there are no local Asperger support groups where I live in Fresno, California.

However I am trying to learn and utilizing the internet to make social progress.

In addition to Asperger support, check out the online dating sites. Fun way to say hi to a bunch of chicks.

I am 29 and never had a girlfriend, never even kissed.

It's a personal choice.

I'm 29, a virgin, never been in a relationship and never dated. The whole 'date' thing seems a bit artificial and forced to me anyway, so I'm far more comfortable getting to know someone in a more informal setting where it feels less like a date and takes some of the pressure off. I suspect it's not hard finding someone else who feels the same way about that issue!

At the moment I'm probably in a better position to sustain a relationship than I've ever been, from a mental and emotional standpoint at least. Unfortunately I currently live in a small rural town where, to put it bluntly, there aren't many people my own age. Those who are around the same age as me are either in a relationship already or are single for a reason (or a number of reasons!). Online dating/social sites are the only solution really...most of my friends are already scattered around the country, so having a girlfriend who lives in a different town to me wouldn't be a surprising eventuality at all.

I'd like to think that I've simply been unlucky - as in, I've simply had a run of meeting women who are either not compatible with me or aren't interested in a serious relationship. In the short term this isn't an issue but over the years the idea of someone finding me attractive is nigh on impossible to imagine so it's a situation I'd like to get out of before I end up to bitter or paranoid.

It will happen when it happens and it's hardly the end of the world. I've long since come to the realisation that you can't *make* another person care about you; if they're not interested they're not interested, and there's nothing anyone can do about that. Being philosophical about the subject doesn't make the feelings of loneliness or insecurity go away of course, but I try to avoid falling into the trap of self-pity because that mindset doesn't change anything.

Just because you like the idea of a girlfriend, ask ur self is it fair to lead a person on even if u do like her as a friend so u can simply say 'i have a a girlfriend' and have some of the perks that go with it? maybe u prefer to just being single, theres nothing worng with being 25 and still a virgin with no romance experiences, my dads best mate is 50 and hes really happy being single, never married or any thing. he travels, has a massive home cinema thing. some people just fit being single.

Agreed.
The other day I was at another forum and someone that had no desire to be in a relationship stated that she was a virgin(its the kind of forum where members like to copy 4chan and ask noobs things like post nudes in an attempt of being funny) and she was told that wasnt anything to be proud of.

Her reply was that she made a personal choice to remain that way because she didnt see a point on relationships/sex and it was nothing to be ashamed of either.

looks like there are abunch of asexual people on this site or we are all sterotypical nerds . Im 21 and straight but really had a girlfriend (exept when i was 11 for a while ) and have never had sex with a girl ( or a guy for that matter ) though i DID play naughty games with that one girl (oh no i must be a molester for playing docter as a kid ! !!) . I tend to be distant from people because they tend to be distant from me . I also thought that i was bi sexual for a while but it turned out that I merely admitted that other guys looked hansom , no actual sexual desires for them though but i was afraid that it might turn into something gay and it would consume me slowly turning me into that kid from Glee ( you know , the gay one ) . I never really HATED gays but they scared me because I thought that they were goning to bite me and I would join the Legons of the Unstraight or somehow might get infected by Gaydiation or something like that , but now that I know that you cant be turned gay and its not something that people just "become " due to exposure to gay people or you might just fall in love with a dude or something ,its a hormonal INBALANCE of estrogen in male babies .TOTATLLY IRRELEVANT

I think in general, women think guys want a virgin, and they know there's a way to tell. And women are usually ashamed of sexual experience.

Guys are usually accepting of a woman who has sexual experience, even to the point of marriage.



Yes. Don't want dating/sex, don't care about it.



A lot of people have never had gay friends. It's interesting to be hit on, as a guy. I would take it the same way we expect a woman to. Enjoy the interaction, delay sex, don't get too romantic unless you're interested.

Yes, that's my advice to straight men. Cures the fear right up.



If someone decided they wanted to become gay, I think it's possible. I think the biological tendency is usually to favor the opposite gender.

That's your problem. You are f*****g waiting all the time. I used to be just like you and it is really painful to watch.