What type of people you attract/ What you don't attract.

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Hmmmmm

I don't seem to attract anyone

What sort of people do I attract? Hmmm, let's see...






Hmmm... wait... let me think a bit more...






Hmmm...


I better start with the list of people I *don't* attract.


No, wait, it would take hours and the forum would probably reject the post anyway for being overly long...


EDIT: Most dogs do like me, however. Does that count?

I don't think I've ever attracted anyone.

Good one.

All of the men who have ever been seriously attracted to me have been military, ex-military, or military brats.

Most of the people who actually hit on me have been women.

I've been thinking about this for a while but I can't really think of any qualities that the people who are attracted to me share, not even gender. I see guys checking me out about half as often as girls, but I they never actually talk to me, probably because they can see that I'm not gay.

This one's easy. I don't seem to attract anyone. Of course, I wouldn't be able to tell if a guy was flirting with me; I'd be absolutely clueless.

I tend to attract:

Men I have little in common with.

People who think I'm easy to take advantage of.


I repel:

Extroverted women. They think I'm snobby because I'm very quiet and try to annoy me by being extra loud around me. ( However, if they get to know me they seem to like me because I'm unlikely to steal their thunder.)

Men I'm attracted to.

I attract: people with really strong opinions, most of which conflict with mine, and that's just fine with me. Also really beautifully minded people who happen to be outcasts of one sort or another.

I don't attract: vacuous, superficial, consumer types whose beliefs are spoon fed to them by marketing orgs.

The only women I attract are bookish women. I don't mind this, in fact I like bookish women, but I am too nervous to actually start a conversation with anyone like that who shows interest in me.

I repel every other type of woman.

It wasn't sarcasm. What you posted were the qualities of a really great sounding type of guy IMO, you must have some good qualities yourself if you're attracting them.

Or if there's some spell you do to attract those sorts of guys I want the recipe lol.

Sorry - I'm so used to yours and WhoAmI's posts in here being sarcasm half the time, that I can't tell anymore.
Well I could offer you the two last ones who tried - but one lives in Brisbane and the other in the Gold Coast - but I think you're further south than that, aren't you?
I also don't know how you feel about Brazilian guys - or engineers or vets.

Spells?
Be really annoying? (It's my only talent)
Sorry - I have no clue - you'd have to ask someone close to me.



I didn't see your comment before - sorry.
Interesting.
If that's the case then I'm surprised you're still single. Have you only been approaching girls who are in the same field of study / career as you?
Because if you are, it might be a good idea to change that up a bit more. I end up attracting guys who are in different fields - usually science or system / programming related - despite the fact that I am in the arts (although in courses with a high cut off point). While I would prefer someone in the same or a similar field - the truth is that it works better from experience when they are not - in that instance complementry works better than than similarity.

"If that's the case then I'm surprised you're still single."
That's very flattering

I'm not really that surprised that I'm single at the moment. I had really poor social skills when I was younger, and didn't really get the social skills necessary to function in a relationship until I was about 18. I got my first girlfriend shortly after starting college, who dumped me shortly thereafter, so I was depressed for nearly a whole year and did not approach girls. I got a German girlfriend at the start of the next year while I was on an exchange, to whom I still feel attached, so I haven't approached any girls this semester yet (because it felt wrong). But I've been chatting with several girls this semester and trying to figure out which one I wanted to date the most. I was going to ask a girl if she wanted to do something with me during thanksgiving break, but she was not in her usual location when I meant to ask her, so I just have to wait until I get back.

And yes, I am mostly interested in people in my own subject. I basically have a small crush on ever girl in the engineering departments. The girl I wanted to ask out has my own major. I've noticed, however, that it seems like half the girls in my political science class have a crush on me, which seems a little weird to me. I still think of myself as I did when I was 15 and couldn't get any girl to talk to me, so it seems like a miracle every time it happens. I don't have anything against dating them if they are nice and make things easy on me.

Also I think it might be easier to get girls if I had an income. I'm still dependent on my parents.

It sounds like you are doing the right things... The only advice I can give is don't give up.
I gave up for a long time after I tried to start a relationship with a girl at my church. She led me on like she might want to start a relationship when really she was just holding out to see if the guy she was REALLY interested in would ask her out.
She ended up marrying him and now has a kid on the way.
I eventually got over her, but the whole experience kind of paralyzed me from trying again and I just resigned myself to being single.
That was over 5 years ago. Now I'm 34 years old and wishing I hadn't waited so long because now I am way behind.
I am starting to put myself out there again (online dating sites), but it's even harder now that I am older because there aren't as many women to choose from

As per the bolded part: Guess what my major is?

Interesting, no? You're in science, I post what I attract, you mention you fit most of the list and are somewhat attracted, I ask if you're approaching girls in the sciences, you say you are, but that half the political science class has a crush on you, I major in political science yet you're somewhat attracted to me dispite I'm not in the science programs?

If I were you I would be considering the girls who study political science, international relations, development studies, history and maybe philosophy - any of those majors. If you notice women there are more attracted to you then there is a reason for that. You might *want* (preference for similarity) a girl who is in science, but it might not be what you *need* (complementry is needed) - often that is a tricky concept to get out heads around at first and many resist it, but it's true.