The_Face_of_Boo
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16 Feb 2023, 11:02 pm
funeralxempire wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
I can't imagine why you struggle.
Oh damn… I still see you on phone, I shall run this script here too
.Struggle? Not really, nope. I haven’t been single for long since 2016.
Imagine again.
viewtopic.php?f=8&t=1097&p=9238533#p9238533
I'm happy for you.
It doesn't detract from my main point that being petty and passive-aggressive doesn't lend itself to social successes. Most people don't enjoy the company of people who display those traits; muahaha, i blocked you for not talking enough is a really childish and petty way to behave. It doesn't show them anything, it likely isn't noticed and sometimes is just needlessly vindictive against someone who's awkward.
But, I assume you'll carry on like you've pwned me for criticizing your behaviour. It doesn't even prevent me from criticizing your posts, it just prevents you from rebutting.
Ok chill.
Have a kitkat…. or weed or something, you’re too serious and no fun. Yawn.
The_Face_of_Boo
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16 Feb 2023, 11:25 pm
uncommondenominator wrote:
I can't help but wonder if there might be some type of connection or correlation between being rude, and people being uninterested in maintaining a conversation with said rude person.
Rude guys blocking the women that don't want to talk to them sounds like a self-correcting problem, rather than any sort of punishment.
I still can't get past the OPs assumption that if a convo dwindles off, it's the woman's fault somehow.
Rude guys blocking the women that don't want to talk to them sounds like a self-correcting problem, rather than any sort of punishment.
I still can't get past the OPs assumption that if a convo dwindles off, it's the woman's fault somehow.
It is no one’s fault.
It simply means one of them has zero interest, and actually blocking them won’t affect them per se at all because the non-interested one will never check back and notice, the other’s one state of existence or not doesn’t matter to them.
I recall someone way back (like a decade ago) I went with to a *date* three times, initiated by myself three times. So I did my part in showing interest, the ball was totally in her court.
Used to initiate texting with her a lot, she always replied but like the OP’s description, she never maintained the conversation, actually I recall she never replied with something more than few words, never more than a line, and she *never* initiated anything. I went sick and went to hospital disappearing for a week (after telling her I am was not feeling well), she never texted. I texted her after hospital and she was just replying with “Hello”, and nowhere in the exchange she asked once why I disappeared for a whole week.
Like come on, this was not shyness or introversion or yada yada, this was a total non interest, If I died she wouldn’t even have noticed it, I was just just one of the many guys she knew from okcupid. So I stopped o with her, and guess what she didn’t initiate to this day lol.
Now I know the difference between interested and non interested ones big time.
A really interested one WILL initiate too, WILL maintain and ask you question during any conversation. My old advice still stands:
viewtopic.php?t=387442
17 Feb 2023, 7:07 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
:arrow:
It is no one’s fault.
It simply means one of them has zero interest, and actually blocking them won’t affect them per se at all because the non-interested one will never check back and notice, the other’s one state of existence or not doesn’t matter to them.
I recall someone way back (like a decade ago) I went with to a *date* three times, initiated by myself three times. So I did my part in showing interest, the ball was totally in her court.
Used to initiate texting with her a lot, she always replied but like the OP’s description, she never maintained the conversation, actually I recall she never replied with something more than few words, never more than a line, and she *never* initiated anything. I went sick and went to hospital disappearing for a week (after telling her I am was not feeling well), she never texted. I texted her after hospital and she was just replying with “Hello”, and nowhere in the exchange she asked once why I disappeared for a whole week.
Like come on, this was not shyness or introversion or yada yada, this was a total non interest, If I died she wouldn’t even have noticed it, I was just just one of the many guys she knew from okcupid. So I stopped o with her, and guess what she didn’t initiate to this day lol.
Now I know the difference between interested and non interested ones big time.
A really interested one WILL initiate too, WILL maintain and ask you question during any conversation. My old advice still stands:
viewtopic.php?t=387442
uncommondenominator wrote:
I can't help but wonder if there might be some type of connection or correlation between being rude, and people being uninterested in maintaining a conversation with said rude person.
Rude guys blocking the women that don't want to talk to them sounds like a self-correcting problem, rather than any sort of punishment.
I still can't get past the OPs assumption that if a convo dwindles off, it's the woman's fault somehow.
Rude guys blocking the women that don't want to talk to them sounds like a self-correcting problem, rather than any sort of punishment.
I still can't get past the OPs assumption that if a convo dwindles off, it's the woman's fault somehow.
It is no one’s fault.
It simply means one of them has zero interest, and actually blocking them won’t affect them per se at all because the non-interested one will never check back and notice, the other’s one state of existence or not doesn’t matter to them.
I recall someone way back (like a decade ago) I went with to a *date* three times, initiated by myself three times. So I did my part in showing interest, the ball was totally in her court.
Used to initiate texting with her a lot, she always replied but like the OP’s description, she never maintained the conversation, actually I recall she never replied with something more than few words, never more than a line, and she *never* initiated anything. I went sick and went to hospital disappearing for a week (after telling her I am was not feeling well), she never texted. I texted her after hospital and she was just replying with “Hello”, and nowhere in the exchange she asked once why I disappeared for a whole week.
Like come on, this was not shyness or introversion or yada yada, this was a total non interest, If I died she wouldn’t even have noticed it, I was just just one of the many guys she knew from okcupid. So I stopped o with her, and guess what she didn’t initiate to this day lol.
Now I know the difference between interested and non interested ones big time.
A really interested one WILL initiate too, WILL maintain and ask you question during any conversation. My old advice still stands:
viewtopic.php?t=387442
Oh, I don't doubt for an instant that she was a "total non interest". I am suggesting that there may be definable causes for this lack of interest, even beyond "shyness" or "introversion".
Whether or not someone is in fact interesting to others often has an effect on this.
Whether or not someone is rude to others may also be a factor.
Whether or not someone is reasonable in their expectations may be relevant as well.
Just a thought. I've found these to be useful considerations.
17 Feb 2023, 7:15 am
nick007
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25 Feb 2023, 4:55 am
I find it ironic that some members on an autism forum are complining about others not communicating with them well Autism is a social disability so by default I would consider us autistics to be the ones who are bad communicators. A much better topic would be
"How can I(or us austics) keep coversations going?"
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