Why are men so intimidated by smart women?

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I agree as a matter of fact I am attracted to smart women I am not sure why perhaps the desire to eventually pass on more intelligant genes. Sadly most women I date get intimidated by my intelligence not sure why though maybe because they are NTs I dont know I had this woman who claimed she was smart into astronomy and such and I told her i was into geology and she asked whats so exciting about geology? I gave her a lecture on how cool geology is and how it correlates with Astronomy as well I also got into the subject of Astronomy and came up with theories whats on the other side of a black hole "my main theory is that there are alternate universes on the other side and each universe has black holes with universes on the other sides of them they are on several tiers think of it kind of like several levels of strainers draining into each level.'' She was so boggled and avoided me for a while and I asked why and she said that she was intimidated by my intelligence and that I knew more than her. Sometimes being too smart does that though. I will have to practice learning how to tone it down sometimes I feel I have to hide my intelligence for things to work at least until I find a super intelligent woman compatible with me.

Last edited by AspieOtaku on 29 Oct 2012, 2:12 am, edited 1 time in total.

The "she is out of your league" phrase comes to mind in this thread. So the "intimidated by x women" looks to be related more towards physical beauty and social status than actual intelligence to me, in general.

............and what is smart exactly?

Im not intimidated by any kind of woman(Ive been known to make jokes about superiors flaws from day one regardless of their gender...)

However as some users have pointed out I do avoid approaching someone if I think that this person wont want to talk to me and this includes most people that are "higher" than me on social scale.
Why? I tried to approach them in the past and they didnt react too well, theres plenty of other people so I stopped making the first move.
If a woman "higher" than me wanted to talk to me shed have to make the first move. I know this means reducing my opportunities and so on but after a period of constant rejection when you try to approach them as friends its better to follow this route

i do not care if a woman is smarter than me. they will harvest from me what they can before they move on to more fertile fields of consideration. i do not feel any loss of livability by saying to them all i know, and for them to thank me for my time and move on.

it has not happened yet because i have not had many friends in my life, but i am sure i would not care if it did.

i know many facts that are pertinent to very many topics of conversation, and i do not have to use google to construct my answers to people.

when one talks on line, one never knows how much the other person knows in a native fashion. they can excuse themselves for days while they google (i define "google" now as a verb) up their responses, and their passion to appear intelligent may make it seem to me that they are intelligent, but in reality, they may not remember what they googled a few weeks later because it was for the sole purpose of winning an intelligence prize in an artificially stimulated debate.

when i talk to people where we have no access to computers, i usually know more things than the people i talk to, and i am usually able to work out the possible realities behind the ways that many scenarios we discuss may come to occur.

i have not met many people that i feel subordinate to, but i have not met many people.

i have seen some people who i am in awe of, but i have never met one yet.

I have heard many men say they want a woman with a brain. Probably that does not mean someone with a brain who is also not easy to get along with. I think if two people are of equal education and similar background probably it gives the relationship a good chance of success. On the other hand sometimes one person's weaknesses can be assisted by the other's strengths so this can help a relationship as well. For example, one person dislikes cooking and the other loves to cook or one person dislikes paying the bills and dealing with finances and the other person will gladly pay the bills and balance the checkbook, etc, etc.

And this is why everyone wants Kjas as their mate.

I wish!

The only one who can put up with me is Shatbat, it has been proven.

I want a hyperintelligant woman so I can have kids who can memorize the entire encyclopedia set from a to z at age 5 like I did.

Woah woah woah, oh HELL no, they aren't, at least not in my high school, and not in any other high school as far as I can tell. The only girls who were ever popular at my high school were either average or complete morons. They were the cheerleaders and sluts, the ones who got by on looks only.

Now, that being said, i am absolutely NOT intimidated by intelligent women. I LOVE intelligent women. It's the ones who aren't intelligent that I want nothing to do with, and it hasn't a thing to do with being intimidated either. It's more like... It would be like trying to marry a woman who speaks only spanish. We simply wouldn't understand each other.

If that's true then howcome most try to copy off my notes and ask me for help and studying for an Earth science exam?

I tend to agree- I think those who are flashy and outgoing (I think obnoxiously-so, but whatever...) tend to be the most popular,
and that there's actually an inverse relationship between popularity and intelligence.

Another one of those rare moments where we completely agree.

What really bugs me is how smart these same people think they are. They praise themselves for quickly coming up with an answer to a problem by doing things in the simplest (but often worst) way possible. Labour costs too high? Fire people and bring in cheap temps - yaaaaay! !

While they may have a few minor talents (mostly sports) the only real talent or skill most of the "popular kids" have is social manipulation. But boooyyy does it work out for them in the long run. *sigh*

I can't help but see most of them as Bad Idea Bears.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZayehrGqLk[/youtube]

BlueMax, I have a question for you: What good does voting do when you're forced to choose between two equally sh***y choices? No matter what you choose, the end result will be bad, so what good does it do? Not only that, but our vote doesn't really matter anyway.

My post really had nothing to do with the election and more about the popular kids making stupid decisions and convincing others to do things their way.
*yaaaaaaayyyy!!*

Oh, okay then.

Yes unfortunately the more popular kids are more socially intelligent than someone like me who does not intuitively read nonverbal signals. In my opinion not all popular kids are always less intelligent overall since there are different kinds of intelligence. In high school I never cared about being a "popular" kid per se and never bought into giving into peer pressure,