First date in 6 years, now what?

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13 Jul 2018, 9:49 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

I think one has to gauge the situation. There truly are some women who are scared when a man says they're "thinking of them." I've experienced this myself.

I've had obsessive women who have said that to me. It makes me a little scared if a woman says that to me after only knowing me a very short time.

This sort of statement can also be used as sort of a con by manipulative types of both genders.

Ideally, of course, a man or woman should always say what's on their minds.

I don’t think most women would be scared if they’ve already agreed to a second date.

It’s a little creepy when a guy that you’re not dating says something like that.

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13 Jul 2018, 9:49 am

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I think Sly should just follow his instincts, trust himself, and do what feels right.

Getting relationship advice from L&D is like the blind leading the blind.

Also, good luck.

Amen!

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13 Jul 2018, 9:54 am

That's true, Twilight. If a second date was agreed to, it's a good indication of interest.

Now....if she says that she's been thinking about HIM.....then I'd go sort of full-throttle :wink:

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13 Jul 2018, 10:02 am

Twilightprincess wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

I think Sly should just follow his instincts, trust himself, and do what feels right.

Getting relationship advice from L&D is like the blind leading the blind.

Also, good luck.

Amen!

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13 Jul 2018, 4:00 pm

Why did we turn Sly's positive thread into a debate or "misc. discussion".

I think Sly feels pretty bad.

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13 Jul 2018, 8:17 pm

1. Don't be a desperate weirdo.
2. Don't be an uncaring a**hole.
3. Get the hell away from this place.

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13 Jul 2018, 8:30 pm

^this, this, and this

sly, if anyone here ever sounds like, or comes off as knowing exactly what theyre talking about and that you MUST listen to them, chances are they don't know as much as they say they do

do what you feel is right, trust your gut, but also...don't spam her, don't be too aloof or distant. maybe find a happy medium.

even if this doesn't lead into something serious it should at least tell you that there are some girls out there willing to be around you and give you a chance.

you ARE worthy. good luck.

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13 Jul 2018, 9:54 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Hey Sly....tell us about the first date! You kept stuff from us!

You Sly Fox, you!

I don’t want to tell people and then be disappointed.

She short, nice, doesn’t drive or work currently.

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13 Jul 2018, 10:02 pm

how did you meet her.

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13 Jul 2018, 10:29 pm

Pages of arguing.

Follow your instincts, not advice that worked for someone else who may not want the same thing as you.

And good luck.

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13 Jul 2018, 10:49 pm

Congrats Sly! You did great my man!

Follow your heart.

Good luck!

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14 Jul 2018, 12:18 am

sly279 wrote:

I don’t want to tell people and then be disappointed.

She short, nice, doesn’t drive or work currently.

Been thinking about this, Sly, and if you want to keep details private, you have every right to keep them private. We're all cheering for you, and curious, and well-intentioned.

But this is *your* time and *your* life - if you prefer not to share a lot of details, that's fine. They're *your* details!

:-)

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14 Jul 2018, 1:32 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:

how did you meet her.

Okcupid

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14 Jul 2018, 1:34 am

Esmerelda Weatherwax wrote:

sly279 wrote:

I don’t want to tell people and then be disappointed.

She short, nice, doesn’t drive or work currently.

I meant didn’t want to tell about having a date.
I’ve told people in past then nothing happens and it’s embarrassing.
I dont know what to tell about the date, I feel she is neutral about me

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14 Jul 2018, 2:50 am

When is the 2nd date?

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14 Jul 2018, 11:58 am

sly279 wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Hey Sly....tell us about the first date! You kept stuff from us!

You Sly Fox, you!

I don’t want to tell people and then be disappointed.

She short, nice, doesn’t drive or work currently.

Good luck!

You're a good guy who DESERVES to be loved and appreciated.

You're not obligated to tell us anything, but know I'm over here in Arkansas rooting for you.

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