Dating unemployed man

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My autistic son has a Master's degree and is having a very hard time finding the type of employment he wants. He went about three years not working at all during Covid. He lives at home when not at school, and is dependent on me despite being nearly 30. He's had a longterm GF the whole time. She's finishing a PhD and can't find work either. They're both overqualified for random jobs, and underqualified for entry-level work in their careers. She lives with her parents, too. That's the reality these days. They both do a bit of part-time stuff to meet their basic needs but there's no way they're self-sufficient or able to live together and have kids.

My son has lots of friends male and female who are unemployed. The job market is absolutely crazy and it's near impossible to find work. I've said before that my son applied to something like 300 jobs over an eight month period of time, and only had two interviews. He botched them because of his autism (my opinion).

My daughter dated a man for five years, and he was unemployed until the last year or two.

I think some people in this thread might have the advantage of living in places where jobs are available, especially for autistic / disabled people. Finding work around here is next to impossible, able-minded or not.

I've dated while unemployed.

No problem, Blitz. I hope you know I'm not trying to attack your POV. I'm trying to support the autistic men on WP so they know there are at least some women who get it and understand without judging. I don't want Chris or anyone else to think their only value to prospective partners is financial, whether that's the message they're fed by social media or not.

Here's a real time convo I'm having with my son this very minute.
He's ranting about his current work-from-home job, which he started last December -

My bad - I thought this thread was started by Chris.

I just noticed it's Jamesy.

My opinions remain the same.

Sorry Jamesy.

Darn.
He calls me Bee (for Honeybee).
I thought I just had nice knees.

Is there the same pressure on gay / lesbian people to find "providers" ?

Is one of the men or one of the women supposed to be more of a breadwinner?

(Sorry if that's a derail, but I just don't get these heteronormative social standards.)

Does your boyfriend work, TP?
I can't remember.

Dirk, I thought that was cool when you word nerded like that. That's absolutely something I would do.

Back on topic, I live in the Southern US, and yup, they judge hard for people being employed, especially for men. With the people I know, or at least the ones I would surround myself with, they would not judge if the person was disabled. The bad thing is that there is a stigma regarding invisible disabilities.
Ironically, in my experience, non-disabled NTs are understanding of disabled people not finding work, but people with physical disabilities, or at least blind people who have been able to find work can be the most judgmental people I've ever seen in my life towards disabled people who either can't work or who just haven't been able to find a job.
I wonder if those attitudes are changing any due to the unemployment situation. I hope so, but some people are just addicted to being judgmental trolls, so probably not. You guys might do better trying to date younger people. Gen Z seems a lot more accepting of people, at least from my experiences.