Do You Ever Feel Like You Will NEVER Find a Soul Mate?

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12 Feb 2014, 9:25 pm

Yeah all the time. It's a source of a lot of frustration.



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12 Feb 2014, 10:34 pm

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What Hale_Bopp said.

I feel like I am not compatible with anyone, and also the type of guy people settle for when they can't get anyone "better". Not what I want.



I feel like I'm compatible/attract the wrong people for me. Which idk if that's better or worse...



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13 Feb 2014, 1:56 am

I don't just have visual thought ability but also ability to use touch receptors on my skin to think, so I decided to make a literal feel-based "soul resonance" system by reverse engineering that ability. Next I can create a mirrored perception feedback system that allows me to use my skin to feel what they think I am like, and then I can use some of the advanced social interaction skills I've developed to subtly alter my own personality to make our souls resonate in perfect sync. Okay, it might take another 10 years to perfect the technique, but I've already had some success with it.

I like the idea of soul mates. I have studied the hypnosis experiments the government did and tried to cover up in my dad's era. It's also possible to slowly alter a person's perceptions until even someone with autism would have a different personality. Haha of course I would not use this forbidden knowledge on anyone...

It seems to me that if you try too hard and burn yourself out too much, you give up. That can be true of any number of activities. Just try as hard as is comfortable, and don't put all of your energy into it, and don't burn out, and you will have the most chance of success at anything over your entire lifespan. Now all I have to do is stop before I put in too much energy and when I am about to burn out, and I'll master life itself.


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13 Feb 2014, 3:02 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I'm getting to the point where I'm just going to give up. I doubt there is someone out that compatible with me, and the medical issues that prevent certain things. In other words, a normal relationship really isn't possible, and if it is, the guy would get sick of it and leave.

I'll probably end up with a Dog and Cat.

Are you sure you aren't interested in coming up to Canada :lol: I gotta admit that you are exactly the type of girl I would be looking for and they are nowhere to be found around here, as they are gobbled up almost right away. I especially love how intelligent you are: that is a big deal to me and one of the main reasons I broke up with my Girlfriend. All I can find are either party girls who have no thoughts other than what bar or nightclub they plan to visit next or girls with serious (as in dangerous) mental issues.

Getting back to the topic at hand, I don't hold out much hope either. Not only am I painfully shy around women I've never met and can't read flirting/social cues but I am an incredibly picky eater to the point my choices are extremely limited. Causes most people to falsely accuse me behind me back of being an attention seeker when in reality I am a hermit and would just like to be like everyone else in terms of diet. Story of my life is that I've reached all the milestones many years after everyone else and I can't see how this can't be any different but I will admit it's hard to hold out hope. Seems 'normal' women who want a family, are intelligent, hardworking, independent, etc want nothing to do with me and I cannot figure out for the life of me why, especially when all my (married) female co-workers love me and tell me I am a dream guy to most women. Oh well, all I can do is keep going onward! Almost makes me wish I was a little more 'weird' so I could get along with nerdy girls instead of being the slightly weird normal guy. In my case, I seem to fall right through the crack of being too 'normal' for a weird girl and too weird for a 'normal' girl.


Dude bro. You don't know me.



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13 Feb 2014, 3:35 am

It goes without saying that after 25 years without a relationship, and only a handful of bad experiences related to the subject (some among the worst experiences of my life) I'd come to wonder if I'll ever find the right person. But I'll keep my head up, I know that I have qualities that are very desirable to some people, even if I don't have the ones that most people go after.



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13 Feb 2014, 4:52 am

I feel like I will never find anyone compatible with me.

My last boyfriend was when I was 15/16, and it didn't work out because he was quite a bit older than me. This summer we met again and became friends with benefits. It all started to make me feel really empty on the inside. There was no intellectual connection.
In the mean while I've met a few guys that liked me or even had a crush on me, but they were too clumsy or immature for me (sometimes also a few years younger) to develop a crush on them. I really have to fall in love to want to be in a relationship.
Then I met this guy in college this year who I really really liked. Smart, a bit goofy, authentic, relatively good-looking and sociable at the same time. Everyone said they could see there was a different kind of connection between us. And then I found out he had been seeing/dating a girl for about a month. I felt so stupid and disappointed.
He spontaneously showed me how to dance the jive when we were at his room. He always tries his best to cheer me up when I am sad. But appearantly that is just his personality. I feel so bad about it, almost betrayed. I can't even stand being around him now but I will have to see him every week until june. He said he doesn't call the girl his girlfriend yet, because she will be going abroad for three months and then for three years and he doesn't know if he should continue a relationship. But still it's clear that there is something going on between them and that he is in love with her. I am not going to hope/wait for it to end, because that would just be pathetic. And besides he might not even like me. Maybe he thinks I am an annoying brat. That I interruptes him too much when he speaks. That I am too emotionally childlike. Or something.

It just makes me hate myself at times.

I just can't imagine ever meeting a guy that I could fall in love with and that will fall in love with me at the same time. My mom says it will happen. I went to a psychiatric nurse and he told me to just keep doing the things I like and that it will happen.



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13 Feb 2014, 5:35 am

@Cafeaulait - I understand how hard a feeling of betrayal can be. A girl I was interested in ended up leading me on and telling me to wait for her to decide if she wanted me or not, while lying to me about fooling around with another guy (she admitted she was later on) and then trying to convince me I was being unfair when I said I wasn't going to wait anymore. She said they were just friends with benefits, as if it made it any better; why should I think you're going to want me if you seem fine lying to me about 'getting your fix' from some other guy? Needless to say it's really hit my ability to trust others - I thought I could trust her.

But it's also related to your other part: I think it's good that you're not waiting on this guy with the girlfriend who is going to be going away soon. Don't ever fall for being someone's "second pick" like I almost did; don't ever fall for being 'good enough' just because the person can't have the the relationship they really wanted. You deserve better than that - you deserve someone who wants you more than anyone else.

I'm older than you and I've never had a girlfriend, and still a virgin even though I've had a chance to end that twice (because I want to lose it to someone I really like, and who I know wants me and not just my body) - I'm still upholding my standards and I'm not giving up, so you can't, either!



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13 Feb 2014, 9:45 am

37, single 7 years. i literaly just cant be bothered with it all anymore. im fully ok with the fact that i will probebly be alone for my whole life.



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13 Feb 2014, 9:46 am

37, single 7 years. i literaly just cant be bothered with it all anymore. im fully ok with the fact that i will probebly be alone for my whole life.



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13 Feb 2014, 10:12 am

Soul Mate? No, but I do believe I will find a lady.


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13 Feb 2014, 11:04 am

No I won't find one. Im getting too mean I guess. Most of the girls didn't even know what they want. I even tried to date a single mom. Because I thought I was somewhat alienating them. But now I know why they are single. They surround themselves with so much drama its annoying.
The ones I like either have BFs or just wanna be friends.
Maybe what one of my friends said was true. Once you make your money, the girls will look at you more than twice.


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13 Feb 2014, 12:37 pm

I found one. I really hope that someday I will find another. It was an amazing feeling, and I want it again. I just don't know if I will ever again find someone as perfect for me as he was. :?



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16 Feb 2014, 3:05 pm

Find a soulmate? HA that's a good one.


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17 Feb 2014, 12:51 am

I won't, i can't be loved. Its a painful existence, but he made over bump 1(vday) next is bump2(bithday) two bumps in the same month. at least no suicide plan like last year.



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17 Feb 2014, 2:18 am

I feel like that every night before I fall asleep. The only exception is when I'm too anxious to notice my loneliness.



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17 Feb 2014, 7:24 am

I didn't believe in fate. But I may now.
27 and still single. Longest relationship was 2 months. Didn't go far.
The whole stigma of being age "30" and not having some things in order to me, is not really important.
Need someone with decent looks/body type and a brain. Can't deal with airheads. Can't deal with yelling or dumb drama.
It's more of that fact that the number of women that have the standards I need, (no kids, are a 100% must) are becoming....almost non-existent.