Are women "testing" men?

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You can get by without quoting everything...........

This man LIES!!

Interesting how everyone assumes its a ''he'' while on her profile it clearly states ''female''. I guess its because she made a point that supports "male" side of the debate, so everyone just assume only men can make that point.

Anyway, I agree the point is valid. In case of Asperger a lot of things are said that aspie won't agree with (such as "aspies don't have emotions"). So the point that is being made is that everything we say is speculative so if we can be speculative in one case we might as well be speculative in other cases (and of course, in BOTH cases the respective groups -- be it aspies or women -- should have a chance to correct misconceptions).

Black box syndrome. You can only make hypothesis about the future responses from said box. But never know for sure

I have made this mistake on occasion and, for me, it is because most diagnosied/known aspies are male and therefore most people on this site are male by extension.
It is also possible that the assumption came from the name itself; Chronos (the time god) being a male.

Actually I remember someone pointed out to me, on a different autism message board, that 70 percent of members were female despite autism being most common among males. The explanation for this is that women are more likely to want to discuss their health. So a woman who ''happened'' to have autism is more likely to go ahead and sign up to a message board than a man would.

One could say that everything about dating is a test: do we have similar goals? What kinds of mistakes does each of us make? How do we respond to those mistakes? Does it irritate me when he/she does something silly, or does it make me smile? Is my world better with this person it? Am I happier? How would I feel if he/she didn't want to see me again?

And so on.

I don't think most people consciously set up tests, but the process is supposed to be about asking questions and gathering information, so that you make a wise choice on whether or not the relationship should be permanent.

It is all different when you know for sure, from day 1, it isn't someone you would marry. Then you just have fun while it lasts.

Interesting, thanks for the info.