Living with parents kind of puts the kibosh on dating?

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Both the richest guys I ever met in my town rent.

The rest of us either do that or live with family, or some of both. Nobody my age can own homes starting at a million so only some of us here even bother renting. The more studious one is here, absent an extremely cushy work life, the less likely we can afford any housing.

I'm cool with Bea & her reasoning is sound but it just doesn't apply unless we see social equality for young people.

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I think it does for those still in the dating part of the relationship cycle. Outside of that, people who have known each other a long time or are in a serious relationship are mature enough to realise the current economic climate in western and European countries.

My friends are a couple and even with a newborn they don't live together but at each others' parents.
This is while they save to move in together. Using this as an example to maybe give you guys a bit of a positive boost.

The important thing is to show that you can be independent. Living somewhere not with family or shown that you have in the past, demonstrates this.

I am making the tough decision to move home after my tenancy agreement expires rather than renewing it. I could stay, but to prove what? It will only cripple my current financial situation and I won't be able to provide for someone else or go on any dates. It's a catch 22. But..I know the right person will understand my reasoning behind this.

Why do they say ability when they mean willingness, or, more plainly, canbeassedtogiveacrapness?

I chose the word ability as it is the most accurate way of summarising.
The way you portray your parents spiderpig leads me to believe that they have their own challenges with ability.

Ability can be based on experiences and genes, my parents had no awareness of ASD because it just didn't exist in their world. How can older parents be held accountable for lack of awareness in the past, it doesn't fly for me.

Threads that imply blame are rarely helpful, unless perhaps they lead to examining the problems with the bigger picture.

I'm not blaming anyone—I've repeatedly gone out of my way to acknowledge their right to behave that way. Besides, I don't think written rights matter all that much compared with the simple fact that they can do it and noöne will stop them; in other words, the law of the jungle. But none of this changes the fact that it's a choice they're making, and they could make the opposite choice at any time if they cared to.

To Everybody: Because of various facts of economy and reality, we as a society need to stop viewing this situation as a failure and accept it as new normal, which it is.

Pretty soon it wont even be "new" normal, just normal.

Incidently, my NT mother NEVER was able ever in her life to live on her own, it was always either her father, my father, or in the five years following my fathers death ME that supported her. Its the reason I had to live in the horrible mosquito infested swamp called Mississippi for five years, doing a resource extraction job I disliked for Shell Oil.