What are your pro's and con's of living alone?

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(This isn't about pro's and con's of dating.) Here is my list. There may be others as I think of them.

Pro's:
>I can listen to any music (or talk shows) I want to without headphones.
>Same with videos and TV shows.
>I can run the household as I see fit.
>Sleeping schedule as I see fit.
>Never any arguments.

Con's:
>If I think of something witty, there is no one around to appreciate it.
>Sometimes, two heads are better than one.
>Emergencies, logistics, etc.
>Occasionally, even I get bored without someone to interact with.

Personally, I think dating someone without living together would be the ideal situation. I suppose it would depend on the other person. I can imagine meeting someone I would love to spend a lot of time with, but they might not be a good "room mate." As time goes on, my preference on this might change.

Pros:
no one telling me what to do
peace and quiet
can set my own schedule
can focus on my passion with no one to interfere
no worries about hurting someones feelings or offending someone with my sense of humor

Cons:
no real reason to come home
no food made after a long day
too much silence can drive you crazy

I see almost no cons for my living alone.

1. Having to fully support myself. I have no income.
2. No one to do things for me that I can't or won't do.
3. When I have a panic attack it can be helpful (but not always) to have another person there to assist in case the bad thing I'm imagining happens, or to help me recognize that what set me off isn't a big deal after all. (examples, if I thought the house might burn down another person there would be available to help evacuate my pets or if I had a medical problem they could call 911. If I smell a burning smell they might calm me by convincing me that it's from the fireplace of the neighbor down the street.)

I really can't decide either way - I've lived alone for almost 2 years now, but I sometimes I feel like I would prefer living with someone else around despite the inconveniences.

This is from the pov of someone who's lived alone for 3 years, having previously been married, and before that lived with lots of different housemates/partners.


Pros


Freedom to wander round naked, or not brush your hair, or dance badly to loud music knowing noone can see or will laugh.

Not having to worry about the state of the house. No I haven't done the dishes. The goldfish doesn't care.

Singing with abandon in the shower.

Playing the same song over and over and over again without causing someone else to cry.

Not having to worry about waking someone up when you get up at 6 am, or go to bed at 3 am.

Not being woken up by a numpty who never goes to bed until 3am and always gets up at 6am.

Easy to have alone time, to retreat from noise and peopleyness of the world and defrag the brain.

It doesn't matter if all you have in the cupboard is an out of date pasty and half a tube of tomato puree. Noone can criticise you for your lack of foresight/cooking abilities/money/ability to leave the house.

Having your stuff where you want it. Not having to deal with other people's terrible taste in furniture/curtains/music/films/collection of china dogs.

Noone else to be allergic to the animals, so I won't have to rehome them, like I have done in the past.


Cons

Loneliness.

Losing touch with other humans. Deterioration of social skills.

Noone to talk to about that amazing song/book/film/idea that you just partook in.

Noone to cook for you.

Noone to cook for.

Noone to be there in the middle of the night when the world seems especially dark.

Noone to comfort you after a nightmare/when someone dies/when you are ill.

Noone to buy you lucozade/ribena/nightnurse or make you chicken soup when you have the flu.

Noone to text you on their way home and ask if you need cat food or chocolate or noodles.

Noone to stroke your hair.

Noone to listen to your daft thoughts with love or affection.

Noone to shout at politicians on the telly with.

Noone to develop skills of reason and argument with through debate.

Noone to worry about you if you don't return home because you've fallen in a ditch and broken your leg.

Noone to share your intense interest in Star Trek/Mysticism/Renaissance art/Engineering/Primates/Computer games/Justin Bieber with.

Noone to share big bags of crisps/popcorn/bars of chocolate with when watching dodgy 80s films.

Noone to introduce their taste in music/films/books/ideas/curtains/collection of china dogs to you.

Noone to prod you to do the dishes before you get leprosy, clean out the fridge before you get cholera, pay the bills so you don't get evicted/get hypothermia, brush your hair before your head is taken over by a confused sloth, buy food on time so you don't starve, eat the bloody pasty before it goes off and sprouts legs.

Noone to listen to when they sing terribly in the shower.

Noone to watch dancing badly.

Noone to dance badly with.

Noone to hold your hand.

Noone to tell you you've got a blob of jam on your nose before you leave the house.

etc.

Pro:

Can put "Two Steps to Hell" on for as long as i want, as loud as I want........(Epic!)

Cons:

My cat may develop sociopathic tendencies, as neither of us seem to need psychical affection much.




Apparently sociopathic isn't a real word, well what do you know spell check... how fyi du spell lol npms!

Pros:

A very flexible, independent life to suit a sociologically independent person.

Had to have experience of sharing living space as a student, with other students, and because I had one heck of a time with that I knew living alone was better despite the cons.

Cons:

Vulnerability to neighbours, which I appreciate may affect both genders when they live alone in different ways, which involve sexual slurs more often than not.

Alone all the way for me, no question. If I'm lonely, I can just go out and socialize with people or have people over. NT friends never tire of socializing and mostly leap at the chance to do so - too easy.

A roommate/live-in-mate/spouse is really a roll of the dice. Going out with someone is different than living with them.

College age folk are more likely to work out well. A family renting out a room tends to be awkward, if you're a guy. Women are usually more accepted. Guys tend to live alone or with their women.