On some levels yes, on some levels no. I dunno, I find Lidia Valentin really hot. So I'm gonna post a video of Lidia Valentin here:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ng1rkNXyh0g[/youtube]
I like her because she manages to be really strong, yet really feminine too. She's stronger than I'll likely (maybe I shouldn't even say likely) be in my life. I also found a nationally ranked #1 female cyclist I knew really hot, too. She could squat and deadlift what I could at 130lbs (I'm 190.) So as far as if I find them hot, I do, as long as they're still like, feminine. I'm also a bit weird in that I like taller girls, too. Like I can find a shorter girl "cute" but I tend to be like, floored, by taller girls. Not necessarily over my height, but girls who are around my height (5'9) someone I can talk to on eye level is nice (even if I suck at eye contact.) Again, the caveat is they still have to be feminine. I don't even like short hair on girls for the most part.
As far as wanting a partner weaker or stronger than me. I don't know, really. I think I'd tend to lean toward stronger or at least equal. For the simple reason that I can barely handle my own problems, and probably cannot handle another person's very well. I've not been in a relationship, but the last two girls I really "fell" for hard were pretty strongwilled girls, but still very feminine. I don't know, I have so many problems of my own, so a weak girl, I'll have to like, solve her problems, and solve mine, too. I think what I look for most in a girl personalitywise is basically self reliance type skills. Basically I equate self reliance to "survival" if that makes sense. I like a girl who can be self reliant, ie, is willing to cook all her food herself, learn new things, try to fix/repair things, etc. Maybe in MTBI type, ISTPs would be apt (I'm ISTP, too.) If she's lacking the skills, it's OK, as long as she's willing to at least TRY to do things when they're presented to her. Basically, it's OK if the girl isn't strong out of the box, as long as she's got the right mindset to potentially become it.
As far as actual relationships. Who knows. I could write paragraphs and paragraphs about my how great my theoretical girlfriend should be, but it's sorta pointless. I have no idea who I'll end up with, if anyone. I see my parent's relationship, and I see it as an overcompensating situation. My father in many ways was the stereotypical "outlaw biker" ala Ladder Theory (in fact he even had a Harley and went to biker bars) and my mother was a nurse. My mother was successful financially/careerwise, and my dad was more or less a loser living with his parents (he lived with them until he was like 35) but he was physically big and strong and fairly "Alpha" in many ways, with some weaknesses (my mother told me had social anxiety.) So from my analysis, they decided to get together to compensate for their weaknesses. I saw this relationship not working, and lived through the family dynamic of it. Two imbalanced people trying to balance each other out doesn't really work, I guess. Maybe it wasn't the imbalance, but just difference in mentality. My father, I inherited his mentality of "strongness" solving everything, you can solve any problem you put your mind to, always do things for yourself, don't pay people to fix things, etc. Very much an "Old World" kinda mentality. My mother had the opposite mindset. So maybe it was just that mindset difference that caused most problems.
Anyway, Lydia Valentin is hot. There.
08 Dec 2012, 12:56 am
