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why do you people here believe that normal,sane nt women
would ever date a moderate autism,learning disable,semi-special need
guy. nt women are nice,but they are not going to date
a semi-special,autism guy.

Okay, because I am not so easily discouraged. Also, living with your parents may seem like a drag, but how about living with your Grandparents? My cousin does that, and he doesn't have any trouble with dates. Mind that he is nt, but he lives in a former storage room for computer junk.

I don't think any of you folks have ever met a moderate or
lower level autism person. we are not like you asperger folks.
if you people met me in rl, you would tell right away,why no
sane nt women would ever date me. or once I start talking,
you could tell something wrong with me.

There are times when you have to buck up. I know that when people say this they sound mean, but even most of them don't want to se someone like you bill, to be so downtrodded. This kind of attitude isn't so good for your chances. You may not find a girl who is sweet enough to give you a chance, but they do exist.

They laugh at us because we are different, but I am sorry for them because they are all the same.

You want a lady who can and will take the time to understand you, not the same pretty pretty girl every other guy talks about. Don't give up, but don't look towards it as the only solution.

Well, if t hat would be the truth, then someone should have told my girlfriend.

She is an NT, and has been one of the few girlfriends I have told about my Asperger's that did the reading on it after. She says that one of the things she loves about me is that I'm different. I seem to introduce a 3D screen into a world she thought she understood more of. She loves how nerdy I am, she loves my quick wit and my dry sense of humor, and most of all, she is a huge fan of vulnerability.

Now, if I am correct, one of the reasons that Aspies can be hella awkward around people is because we are out-of-the-ordinary with almost everything in the eyes of NTs. That even includes how honest we are about our true thoughts and feelings. She not only appreciates that from me, but has been the one who encouraged me from the jump to be less secretive and more open.

So, NT girlfriends can indeed date Autistic/Asperger's men or women, but the trick is finding one that has a good amount of patience because (let's face it) girls of any kind might need it.

OK, forgive me. I didn't really see this in the comments. I often comment before i read other responses. I get what you mean now. Still, my advice stands. Some girl might be a little easier on you if 1) she has enough patience to handle what you have swinging around the bend and 2) if you are more upfront about your Autism.

If the girl just happens to exude ignorance about the topic, depending on your level of patience, leave her or educate her.

yes.mild,smart aspie.not moderate or lower level autism.