Living to regret this!

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Back in 2006/2007 this girl at college really liked me and took the initiative too talk to me and get to know me better. At the time me being an immature 17 year old I was aiming for the top dog when it came to girls. Me being the fool I am I rejected the girl and went out of my way too avoid her.


Now at 24 years of age looking back at my actions back then I deeply regret what I did cause I have never had a girlfriend and I can't seem to find a women who will show the same amount of interest ine m as she did ine me. The girl now lives 67 miles away with her fiancé so I have no chance of dating her lol.


But havig said all that let me get to the point of this thread. I was talking to my mum the other day about how I cannot seem to find a girl who will show the same interest as that girl did in me and my mum said too me "I told you years ago you will live to regret your actions because you only get so many chances"


In a bit more depth what is my mum trying to say to me and how do you think she is trying to help me with that remark?

What your mom is trying to say is that you shouldn't live your life being passive and not talking risks. TAKE THE RISK, because you never know when such a fruitful situation might rise again. Next time you meet a girl that is not a copy of Catherine Zeta Jones (looks wise) but you do feel a connection with her, explore that! Don't immediately reject her or think in a negative way, but see what it brings about. It's very seldom that you're blessed to find your equals.

You weren't ready at the end of the day and dwelling on girls from your past won't do much to change your situation.

Just be willing to take risks, take new approaches and worry less about failure. After all, if someone doesn't like you they don't like you. You haven't failed as there was nothing to succeed anyway. If someone on the other hand likes you can you can pick up signs of this at least test the waters. Unless the girl is blatantly obvious about her feelings, you wont' know until you do

You will find someone that treats you like she did, just when you least expect it.

I have pushed away nice guys in my past, yet openly welcomed the abusive ones into my life... So I understand that regret you're feeling.

Reality is that she's moved on and so should you.

It's not the girl, it's the idea of what she was like with and towards you.

One has to love them self before they can successfully and truly love another.

Just keep on being you, a more open you

Stop living in the past. You cannot change the past.

Your mother seems to be doing some of the same, dwelling on past missed opportunities.

what would be more valuable is if she told you to not make the same mistake twice and to maybe give things a chance with the next girl that pays some attention to you. That would be much more positive an valuable than reminding you about a missed opportunity that you can no longer do anything about.

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I'm with ya...I've been in love with my best friend since I met her 7 or 8 years ago ( I'm not so good with time these days... ) but held back and buried my feelings until I finally told her last August....only to hear a few weeks later that she's getting back with an ex who also happens to be a friend. I can't help but wonder if it would have made a difference if I'd said something sooner or if I ever stood a chance at all....

I would say stop living in the past, but yeah this is probably something you should feel a lot of regret about. I would kill to get a college girlfriend in high school. Good luck finding someone else, but if you don't, then you've only got yourself to blame.

What your mom meant was don't be so quick to reject women. Finding someone who will treat you nice and is willing to accept you is rare.