Can't get over heartbreak after years

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It's been several years and I still haven't moved on. Years ago I met a girl online. We didn't meet on a dating site, but we started chatting. We instantly connected and over several months we got really close. Our daily routine was waking up, going online, and start talking until we went to sleep. We took breaks for food or other responsibilities, but were basically talking all day. We played games together, watched movies together (pressed play at the same time), etc. I confided my deepest fears and secrets in her, she confided in me. We even did some cybering.

For the first time in my life I felt truly accepted. She listened with enthousiasm when I got hyperfocused on what I loved, constantly said sweet things, never made a remark when I did something weird, was always straight-forward with me. She sang to me and made me feel loved. We always planned on meeting up, but neither of us had enough money, and we lived cross-sea.

After a while, she had to move back to her home country in Asia. I told her I was terrified this would mean we would lose contact, she told me she wouldn't. But after a couple of months there, things changed. She never instigated messaging me, only replied to me. She stopped using loving words. She started calling me "dude" and acted like we were just platonic friends. I tried to bare with it for a while as I knew her job was very stressful, but I couldn't take it anymore.

I sent her an email pouring my heart out, telling her I loved her, everything. She never replied to it. I got an email on my birthday twice, but I never got something this year.

I was getting over it for a while, but I relapsed. I just sat behind my PC crying as I started typing this message. I really want to move on, but I can't. I'm afraid I'll never find someone who can make me feel loved like her.

Does anyone have any advice? All the regular stuff just doesn't work for me.

This happens when she eventually finds a boyfriend or another prospect who is more capable to meet her in flesh and take things further.

Fact of life when it comes to distant 'relationship': A girl always have way more prospects (in real life and offline) willing to date her (even willing to travel to her if they abroad) than you would ever have; even if she's socially inept in real life, it doesn't matter

A male who engages in such online relationship is usually socially inept, has little to no social life, not highly attractive and usually has no other dating prospects; while she has tons of prospects, it's a losing battle for him.






My only advice is: don't do this ever again; it's a huge waste of time for you.

Yeah, don't do this again. It's a complete waste of time for you, man. You'll find someone one day cos I will, too!

If you reply to me, I'll state you my business. Since, I would like to know I have your undivided attention.

I'd like to hear it.