My girlfriend removed me from Facebook

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Lukario
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12 Apr 2014, 6:25 pm

I told a white lie but didn't think of the consequences that she wouldn't like it so I apologized and after a while she said we should talk but after some days she just removed me without telling, maybe she needs time and I will talk to her and I will tell her that it was stupid and that she should give me another chance, people do dumb things sometimes and she said a mean thing to me as well so don't you guys that we should get together again?



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12 Apr 2014, 8:06 pm

It really depends on what you lied about as to whether forum members can tell you what's a good idea.



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12 Apr 2014, 8:56 pm

I didn't want to go with some people in the family to a hotel and I was afraid that I would get picked up even if I told them that I didn't want to come so I said to her that I told my father that I'm over 18 and can decide for myself (not too long ago he said "but we have some "plans"" and he drove me to my grandma which I didn't want visit right then) and came to her place and then my mom called her (I didn't think she would find her number), she got pissed etc. and I think she's stupid for this, I can forgive her for saying that I'm damaged if I don't understand that she didn't like what I did but she should at least add me as a friend before that happens and maybe we'll get together again and I've read about people who have lied for fun but still have gotten together again.



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12 Apr 2014, 9:06 pm

Another thing I think is bullsh*t is that she says she was happy all the time but no more in an extremely childish way which I would get pissed at if it happened today, just because I did one f*cking mistake doesn't mean I shouldn't be given a second chance so I think she becomes an enemy to me if she continues like this and doesn't forgive me.



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12 Apr 2014, 9:07 pm

No idea what you're even talking about.

From what I did understand, seems like a stupid thing to be upset about.



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12 Apr 2014, 9:12 pm

I don't have the slightest clue what you said. You didn't want to go to a hotel, so you told her you were going to your grandma's house and your mom called her and told where you actually were? idk but whatever the case, talk to her about it, there's no reason to get upset over that.


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12 Apr 2014, 9:22 pm

It looks like I lumped something together, what I meant to say was that for some months ago my father didn't keep his promise about me having free will to choose if I wanted to visit my grandma or just go home to my mom after I told him so therefore some weeks ago my girl just said that my father can't decide but I thought he would just lie to me and have plans about just taking me to the hotel and I don't think running off would help that much if I didn't get out of the house before he came to pick me up, because of this I ignored my girlfriend wanting me to message my father and then I went to her and told her that I texted my father about not wanting to come with him.

I would get pissed and heartbroken if my father lied again so I didn't want to take any chances and all of my other friends were busy, either with activities or with friends staying over.



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12 Apr 2014, 10:30 pm

I'm really having a hard time reading your text and trying to understand what you are saying. The reason being because there aren't many period breaks to establish the finish of one sentence and the start of another.

Anyway, from what I can gather out of this, the girlfriend seems upset over the miscommunication between the two of you. I'm not sure where you lied, but she seems to be misunderstanding something. She will probably calm down before getting back to you. If you never hear from her, then there wasn't much there to begin with.


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12 Apr 2014, 10:46 pm

aspiemike wrote:
I'm really having a hard time reading your text and trying to understand what you are saying. The reason being because there aren't many period breaks to establish the finish of one sentence and the start of another.

Anyway, from what I can gather out of this, the girlfriend seems upset over the miscommunication between the two of you. I'm not sure where you lied, but she seems to be misunderstanding something. She will probably calm down before getting back to you. If you never hear from her, then there wasn't much there to begin with.


Trust me she said she liked me very much the day she became upset (she removed me as a friend weeks later after that and we had a good tone in that period too, after she wanted to talk to me again) and she may be shy about contacting me again too.



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12 Apr 2014, 10:49 pm

aspiemike wrote:
I'm really having a hard time reading your text and trying to understand what you are saying. The reason being because there aren't many period breaks to establish the finish of one sentence and the start of another.

Anyway, from what I can gather out of this, the girlfriend seems upset over the miscommunication between the two of you. I'm not sure where you lied, but she seems to be misunderstanding something. She will probably calm down before getting back to you. If you never hear from her, then there wasn't much there to begin with.


I lied the day I visited her or the day before that.



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13 Apr 2014, 3:14 am

Sweetie, don't wait on this one. Time isn't what she needs right know. She needs an explanation. You already waited what, a few weeks? I hope she does not take this as you not caring about her.



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13 Apr 2014, 4:52 am

Just remove her from Facebook as well see how she likes it! People make mistakes and if she cant see that then theres no point sticking around!


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13 Apr 2014, 4:52 am

I could be overreacting of course!


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13 Apr 2014, 4:52 am

I gave her an explanation some days before she removed me and during that period she seemed to have forgiven me, smiled and had an ok tone/conversation with me so I don't know what's wrong.



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13 Apr 2014, 6:31 am

Facebook is a not a relationship anyway. Remove yourself from facebook, that is my advice.



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13 Apr 2014, 8:43 am

Just ask her outright. Guessing won't be any good at this point. Teenage girls can be awfully confusing and indecisive at times.

AspieOtaku wrote:
I could be overreacting of course!


Are you sure 'overreacting' isn't your middle name?:D