Question to the ladies: Wouldn't you wish a life like this?

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The_Face_of_Boo
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13 Mar 2019, 2:54 am

Who have it the easiest in life?

Nope, not the common women.

Not the common men....

Not the self-made rich men.....

Not the self-made rich women either...




The answer is: the nonworking woman married to wealthy men!!

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You see the last on left, that's how a typical woman married to a wealthy man looks like (no, I don't mean blonde, but the overall fashion/attitude), and their maids always tagged with them to take care of the dirty things of their kids whenever they go.
I see a lot of these types in the Down town, near my workplace, they jog in the morning, then the same ones I see again coming to have lunch and do shopping, and there's always an Asian / African maid tagged with them who literally does everything for the 1 or 2 toddlers. And I always wondered, don't these ladies have careers? Some jobs? nothing? How comes they have so much free time during weekdays?

Just imagine how easy their life is:
- You can't even categorize them as 'housewives' because they don't even do any typical housewife chores. The cleaning, washing, ironing, preparing food for the kids, cooking even diapering the babies, hell I even see every morning Filipinas and Ethiopians taking kids to school as well. I've been in a relationship with a Filipina working as a nanny before, and she was the one who woke up every night to feed the employer's newborn. So I guess the hardest thing these mothers do in their lives is pregnancy and giving birth....ALL the rest is on their maids.
- They literally do nothing: they even hire French/English speaking maids/nannies so those latter take care of the kids's studies, I have seen plenty of Asian/African nannies teaching kids French in the parks in the afternoons or Saturday mornings, their biological moms are never there. I have seen them on the pools/beach oiling the kids, babysitting, watching them in pool for safety, while all what their moms do is sunbathing, these moms follow a very lazy lifestyle to the point they don't even oil their own kids on the beach!
- They have full financial security....as long their husbands are still rich.
- They have way easier than their rich husbands, especially the self-made rich people, don't necessarily have easier lives, they have to maintain and manage their businesses after all. They don't have the typical concerns of wealthy people who make their own wealth.

So...wouldn't you want a life like this? I admit if I was a woman I may wish to marry a rich man to have a such life, sounds to me it's way easier than the dire nine-to-five work life and ending up not even have the time to spend the money you make on something fun like travels and trips. I so envy those ones.



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13 Mar 2019, 3:23 am

Nope, I don't want a relationship with money...I prefer the relationship I have with my boyfriend. Plenty of those rich guys never did a hard days work in their lives so I mean maybe in a sense they get the greedy women they deserve.

That said what a gross lifestyle, marrying a man you don't even like and aren't attracted to at all because they have $$$$....ick, they're just as bad as they are, with wanting their 'trophy wife' to show off...which maybe they'll just trade in for a younger model when they get sick of looking at the current one.



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13 Mar 2019, 3:26 am

I mean seriously watch some videos of our horrible president here and his wife. It is quite clear she's not in the relationship for him, she is literally disgusted whenever he tries to get near or hold her hand, but she has yet to divorce the money so she barely tolerates his presence with obvious disgust.



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13 Mar 2019, 3:28 am

Nope. Money isn't everything in life :D



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13 Mar 2019, 3:32 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
I mean seriously watch some videos of our horrible president here and his wife. It is quite clear she's not in the relationship for him, she is literally disgusted whenever he tries to get near or hold her hand, but she has yet to divorce the money so she barely tolerates his presence with obvious disgust.


But what about if you get the full package, an ok-looking guy + Money?

Trump wasn't ugly in his youth, but he's really old for this current wife; and he aged so badly.



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13 Mar 2019, 3:52 am

It's easy to assume everyone else is trouble free, for all you know she goes home, gets abused by her rich husband, cuts herself to deal with her depression and worries all her friends only like her because she can take them out to lunch. Just like everyone she is trying her best to look her best and appear so to people, we've no idea what it's like for her without knowing her.


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13 Mar 2019, 4:18 am

Of all this, I would like to be able to hire domestic help. Someone who could take care of all the things I struggle with.
Actually, financially I could but I have really hard time letting someone into my home, so I can't make the decision.

I don't like the rest. Just not my piece of cake, I'm not into fashion, I'm not into showing off. Manners are very important in that class and they are too hard for me - being a nerdy half time scientist, I'm not very frowned upon with my gaffes. But I would be if I lived a celebrity lifestyle. I would need to pretend all the time to be someone I'm not.

And, well, we don't really have this social class in my country and I'm not interested in leaving to Middle East, sorry ;)


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13 Mar 2019, 4:21 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
I mean seriously watch some videos of our horrible president here and his wife. It is quite clear she's not in the relationship for him, she is literally disgusted whenever he tries to get near or hold her hand, but she has yet to divorce the money so she barely tolerates his presence with obvious disgust.


But what about if you get the full package, an ok-looking guy + Money?

Trump wasn't ugly in his youth, but he's really old for this current wife; and he aged so badly.


I prefer if me and my boyfriend both make the money, and money is just a means to an end not the purpose of life.



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13 Mar 2019, 4:41 am

I'm sure plenty of people would like that, but not everybody enjoys/aspires to a parasitic lifestyle (and that's assuming they actually love their husbands and are treated with love and respect themselves which is not that common anyway).

By the time we had the kids, my wife could have stopped working altogether without us struggling. She went back to work because she wanted to and told me straight that if she was about to spend the next decade or two exclusively in the company of children and other mums/couples she'll bloody kill herself. She also didn't want an overworked husband who's too tired/stressed and doesn't have time to bond with and get to know his children from the beginning.

I'm not a lady, but I discovered that the best way to deal with my depression is through having goals and maintaining a feeling of accomplishment. That would be very difficult in such conditions. Also, being married to a rich and powerful man comes with significant social pressure and obligations that would scare the shite out of most autistic people.


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13 Mar 2019, 5:07 am

Actually, as I think of it, I am kind of a wife of a well-off husband, lol :) I'm not working right now because of my health problems and our finances did not notice it :D A talented young engineer earns an order of magnitude more than a talented (but not in grant milking) young scientist.

So, well, from the point of view of a parasitic wife ;) I don't look like the ladies in the photo and I don't want to look like the ladies in the photo. I like my checked shirts and hiking shoes, don't take them away from me! I like my career in science and if I had more money I would do more of it because I could more easily afford to outsource my other duties.

So I would never marry a man who didn't understand it, no matter how wealthy he would be. I want to be myself in my marriage and a fashionable wife is not myself.

My hadrest duty of keeping the family well emotionally couldn't be outsourced, anyway. I couldn't hire someone to love and understand all the geeky bunch of us. Yes, it's a duty, it requires focus and energy.


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13 Mar 2019, 5:18 am

That looks like my idea of Personal Hell. It reminds me of "Big Little Liars", which nearly gave me a panic attack. I wouldn't want anything to do with a world that revolves around image, socialising, extroversion, moving in packs of women, or depending upon another person for my next meal (depending on anyone for anything, really). The thought of maintaining and manipulating a relationship for personal gain makes my skin crawl. I have no interest in a full-time partner and couldn't give a rat's behind what he looked like, if I did have one (assuming he was kind to me).

Leave me home alone with a book and some comfy clothes, and I'll be fine to earn my own money.



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13 Mar 2019, 5:25 am

To magz: I'm sorry if my comment seemed to imply that all women who don't work are parasites, it was not my intention at all. It was strictly related to making an ideal out of marrying a very rich man, hiring a bunch of people to do everything and living an empty life yourself.

You also make another very good point - one doesn't have to be ridiculously rich to have financial security and it's easier to achieve that as a couple, and even leaving aside the fact that you're autistic and have other health issues, judging by your posts you contribute plenty to your marriage and your husband and children well-being and success, sometimes at the expense of your own well-being.


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13 Mar 2019, 5:45 am

BenderRodriguez, I wasn't offended at all, I was making fun of the idea :)
And it gave me a reflection that if I wanted a life like the OP suggests, I could have a lot of it right now.
I don't because I have totally different ideas and goals.


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13 Mar 2019, 5:47 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
That looks like my idea of Personal Hell. It reminds me of "Big Little Liars", which nearly gave me a panic attack. I wouldn't want anything to do with a world that revolves around image, socialising, extroversion, moving in packs of women, or depending upon another person for my next meal (depending on anyone for anything, really). The thought of maintaining and manipulating a relationship for personal gain makes my skin crawl.


You could be my wife's twin sister :D


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13 Mar 2019, 5:48 am

And why are you guys assuming that they are treated and abused badly by their evil rich husbands? I don't witness that at all, what I see that they're laughing and enjoying their luxury life and relaxing .... I don't think it's easy to hide abuse on the faces. Yeah, I know such cases may exist, but come on, NOT EVERY woman married to wealthy man is abused, you are looking at the exceptions.

Most abuse cases come from the poor classes btw.

And you don't even need to have a such lifestyle either (shopping, outing..), imagine the total freedom and options that you will have to do with your life, fulfilling things, like for example you can write a book! You can found a some humanitarian organization and help people! You can take courses and learn plenty of stuff! You can even work in some job just to fill time but without the stress and fear of losing it (and without the stress of house chores and kids because the maid is taking care of that)!

It's a superb easy life!



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