I'm 25 and have never dated a girl

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20 Aug 2023, 3:11 pm

Is it normal for an aspie guy

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20 Aug 2023, 3:13 pm

I didn’t have my first boyfriend until I was 24. It seems to be pretty normal.

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20 Aug 2023, 6:05 pm

"normal" is not always a good thing

The solar system contains more convicted felons than Pulitzer prize winners

The activity with more participants, not always morally superior

40, never dated

Gave up on social relationships a long time ago. Around age 23 or so

Zero romance goes without saying

But oh well

Whatever

Cost benefit analysis

Risk versus reward

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21 Aug 2023, 1:32 am

Highly_Autistic wrote:

Is it normal for an aspie guy

about anything related to dating difficulties is normal for an Aspie guy.

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21 Aug 2023, 3:02 am

Highly_Autistic wrote:

Is it normal for an aspie guy

Yes.

Although some "aspie guys" have been known to overcome their difficulties, date, get married, and eventually start families of their own.

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22 Aug 2023, 3:49 pm

Fnord wrote:

Highly_Autistic wrote:

Is it normal for an aspie guy

Yes.

Although some "aspie guys" have been known to overcome their difficulties, date, get married, and eventually start families of their own.

I have done those things, so there is hope. I was pretty much "undateable" for a good portion of my life.

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22 Aug 2023, 4:54 pm

Defining yourself by your relationship with someone else allows that person to define you instead.

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22 Aug 2023, 6:52 pm

My first girlfriend was age 23. It is perfectly normal for a 25 year old autistic not to have dated.

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23 Aug 2023, 5:19 pm

Highly_Autistic wrote:

Is it normal for an aspie guy

Yes, it's normal.

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23 Aug 2023, 5:32 pm

Fnord wrote:

Highly_Autistic wrote:

Is it normal for an aspie guy

Yes.

Although some "aspie guys" have been known to overcome their difficulties, date, get married, and eventually start families of their own.

I did, although, I'm extremely masked and the more time I spend around my wife, the more convinced I am that she's also autistic. Or probably SPCD. The linguistic and cultural differences make it a bit hard to say for sure.

Then again, I don't think I went on a single date until I was in my 30s and wound up employing a matchmaker to find me women that were at least serious about finding love.

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24 Aug 2023, 8:59 am

At 25 you really shouldn't be concerned about dating girls, you should be worried about dating women. :nerdy:

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10 Sep 2023, 6:55 pm

well in modern times, there are news reports going on, that its becoming quite common for a lot of men to enter their 20s, even NT's, to have never dated, male loneliness is on the rise.

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13 Nov 2023, 7:58 pm

becoming a wizard is not unusual, not uncommon for male aspies, wizard refers to someone who is over 30, not just solely in the 30s decade, but 30 and older and is either still a virgin or always been alone, single.

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14 Nov 2023, 7:12 am

I am 34 and never date so how do you think I feel

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14 Nov 2023, 7:33 am

I'm 30 and never dated, but in my case it's by choice

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14 Nov 2023, 8:54 am

colliegrace wrote:

I'm 30 and never dated, but in my case it's by choice

Same here

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