But you're NT. (???) Everyone is welcome around here, but I couldn't help wondering.
So I looked around and found this old thread:
"Father unaware..." http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt85594.html
I started thinking about an answer before I noticed that it was from December. Now I'm even more puzzled.
Anyway, one thing I would say to your ex is that most of us older types were happy to discover that we are Aspies.
"How did you feel when you found out you had AS?" http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt74040.html
Still, it should be his choice. You know for a fact that he doesn't want you to tell the old man. That should be the end of it.
I'm not sure why, but in your older post, I kept getting the feeling that there's some kind of power issue. I know that's true with my mother, and that it will never stop. Childhood was a living hell. After you grow up, it can be so subtle that no one else can see it, but it still can make you crazy. No amount of inheritance would make it Ok.
Has anything changed since you made that thread?