Does anyone like parties?

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Good point about the definition of party.

If my family comes 'round to my house and we all catch up, I don't see it as a party (though we often do it to celebrate birthdays) and I enjoy it and am generally comfortable, especially since I can always go into one of the rooms no one else is using to flap and relax

If, however, I have to go to a night club or disco (is there a difference?), I cannot stand it! Stupid flashing lights so you can't see, stupidly loud music, and you're in a huge crowd! Plus, I never know what I'm expected to actually do. How anyone could call that fun I don't know!

I go for the food.

I am 43 and I am still single. I am living alone since I was 23. I go to parties sometimes, but I feel like a fish on land. It has to be with people I know very well and then I usually listen or try to listen to a conversation. But when more people at once speak I don't know who to listen anymore and my mind gets side tracked and starts wondering off. So then I start watching people. I only go to a bar when there is a live band playing then I get my self a stool at at strategic place so that I can watch. I only drink soda.

I like them, I usually go to one on a saturday night<3

I avoid social situations at all costs. My roommate and I are always trying to avoid "social obligations". However, I also feel lonely when I don't get invited to parties. I suppose as long as alcohol is involved then I have fun, otherwise it just makes me feel lonelier.

I don't like them much, so I tend not to do them.

It depends. I don't like social gatherings. I'm an activity based person, not a social person. If the party is centered around an activity or group of activities that I find interesting or would enjoy, then yeah, I'll probably go. This type of party doesn't require me to know or be friends with a lot of people. I'm going to participate in the activity and the other people just happen to be doing the same. Now, if it's just a social gathering where people sit/stand around a room and talk while maybe snacking on food or drinking cocktails, I probably won't go because those are just incredibly boring. The vast majority of the time, no one talks about things I find interesting and I don't want to intrude and change conversations to something I find interesting at the expense of boring everyone else. I tend to find myself just sitting/standing off to the side by myself observing the boring people which, not surprisingly, is boring.

It depends. As a kid and teenager I usually browsed the host's bookshelves, picked an interesting book (most often a dictionary or an encyclopaedia), found a quiet spot in the room/house and sat down and read, enjoying myself - ignoring what the others did. As I got older I found it more rewarding to talk to people, and now I often enjoy parties. However, if most of the other guests are people I don't know, it takes much more effort on my part to make the party a pleasant and interesting evening. People perceive me as a social and outgoing person, but I am a rather shy NT so it takes quite some effort to get to know people. But I find that it's greatly worth the "trouble".

It depends on the crowd. Some subcultures I get on well with, and if I already know a few people at the party I do pretty good. Otherwise, I fluctuate between panicked and bored.

On this note, I find it fascinating that people can go into a place where they know nobody and just Bull**** with strangers for hours. It just amazes and baffles me.

It really depends on the context and the people I'm with. Some parties I hate and find utterly boring, whereas others I find enjoyable.

I love parties. Getting drunk means getting rid of the rules. I don't have to worry about how I act or come off, I can always say "sorry I was drunk" later. I can completely relax and be myself.

I get into lots of conversations, which is probably easier for me because my special interests are things people love to talk about but just aren't as passionate about as I am. People rarely get bored talking about drugs or debating radical politics. Who needs social skills when you can wow people with interesting things.

Partying has been therapeutic for me. For a long time I was too afraid to say things in most social situations afraid of screwing up. I get drunk, toss the fear aside and everybody loves me and wants to talk to me.

depends on the party. depends on the people. depends on the activities going on. I like people but I hate small talk. If there are activities like poker or darts or something to keep me involved, I like parties. If I have to talk over cake and ice cream about the weather for an hour with people I don't know and am not interested in getting to know, then yeah, please schedule me at the dentist instead.

I love dancing and going to bars with games. I love night life. I just don't like talking about "nothing" with people for extended periods of time.

I have spent maybe an hour a year with my family since I first left, so it does not matter to them that I'm alive. If I'm at a party or other noisy place where I have to start guessing at what people are saying, I leave quickly. One time, I didn't realize that most of the people at a party were civil servants. One guy came over to get acquainted, and led off with "Are you with the Government?" "No, I'm against it" I replied immediately. He wandered off, and quoted me to several other groups.

However, I have enjoyed some parties, particularly those thrown by one roommate I had. He was just back from some time in the Peace Corps, and had wound up in Africa, as the only white guy for a hundred miles. So, he saw something few of us have seen. Even where the local school has a thatched roof and no walls, they have a variety talent show. The night he attended, the act that brought down the house was two five year olds, with a performance called "White Folks Dancing." After that, when he danced, you knew two things right away. It was a heck of a lot of fun, and anyone else could join in without looking like the silliest person on the floor.