Aspies are a pain to talk to

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Anyone who can only talk about video games should not be complaining about not being able to find a decent date. I say this because I see alot of people on WP complaining about not being able to find a girlfriend, or even friends in general.

I once dated a guy that could only talk about the history of CTA trains. I have never been more bored in my entire life, but I could identify with his penchant to only talk about what interests him. I'm an aspie and I love talking about dogs and music, but I'm old enough to know that other people might appreciate some diversity. It's essential if you want to get along with people.

I can completley relate to much of the OPs frustration here, sounds very much like when I attended an adult Asperger's social group in my area a few times, 4-5 years ago (I was 25-26, I'm 30 today). It was mostly 19-22 year olds playing video games, cards and a few of them talking about sports. No personal discussion, no one with any interest in anything that I'm interested in, (or very much of anything else, either) Very, very frustrating, when you're going there looking to relate to, and the whole aspergers deal and all. I remember feeling alot of what you relate here, "CaptainTrips". After going a handful of times over the course of alittle more than a year, each time half-swearing it was the last, I gave up on that group, wasn't working for me at all.
One thing though I did later realize, although this wouldn't have helped terribly with the lack of common interests and lack of real life discussion, was that at that age ( my early 20's), even though I was interested in (somewhat) more mature and real-life things than video games anime and sports, I wasn't exactly doing so much better than the guys at this group overall. My interpersonal skills were pretty much non-existant, as was my egagement with life and other people in general, and was pretty narrow in my interests with little adaptability in dealing with/ talking with others who brought up interests outside of my own. All very difficult and touchy issues for me.
I'm glad, though, that you've begun to find places to meet others that are closer to your age, and generally more mature, as I have recently.

I went to another group today. I had a great time. Maybe I was wrong about aspies.

Well, Captain Trips, I can only speak for myself, and, yes, I am immature and childish when you meet me. But I can appear professional in my job. For me, immature behaviour is nothing bad as long as it is balanced and as it is not your only mode of communication. So yeah, if you only talk to me over the phone at work you will think that I am very professional and if you only meet me when I am in an immature mood you wonder how I can possibly hold a job. I guess your group is a bit like that as well.

Whenever I went to "teen groups" all I get to to is play board games or listen to people talk about stuff I have zero interest in. I've given up on "teen groups" for now.

I'm a pain to talk to because others won't give me a chance. When I try to engage in conversation others interpret me & tell me that I do not know what I or them is talking about or they accuse me of being rude & offensive when I honestly do not know what I did or said wrong. If others would actually take the time to try & talk to me instead of assuming I'm stupid & mean; they would realize their misconceptions are wrong & I am a good person to talk with. I would be a much better conversationalist if others weren't misjudging me & writing me off.

& BTW~ I'm unemployed because of physical disabilities NOT AS issues(I worked in retail for 28 months). I lost interest in video-games when I gradated high-school & got net. I do have some obsessive interest but I can talk about a lot of other things but I'm not good at starting conversation & picking topics. Teens/tweens like talking to me; they think I'm awesome. Odd that they would be more accepting than people my age

I am into games and anime. also books movies. work. Culture food. Gov. Making websites and a few other things. You are making the same mistake I hear over and over. ASK about changing the Subject to something new!