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I have gathered everything I can get my hands onto. I believe I am of the spectrum, but I still want to go over why I believe this with my doc.
Why I want to do that, is that he 'knows' what I am partly like - at least when it comes to my co-operating with meds lol and some of what I have told him.

He even could NOT understand why I have had melt-downs at times after years of none, there was no logical reason for it. Maybe, this is why? Maybe he did not look at how I am like with others, but just how he saw me around professionals. Plus, to me, believing and knowing are two completely different things.
In knowing, I may be able to be 'gentler' with/on myself. Not knowing, I may always wonder and be looking for the why, instead of knowing what I can do.

Anyway, the whole reason behind this post, is I am a little nervious and I do not get that way generally when it is someone I know.
And never with him.. he actually is a great doctor and listens. I only had to fire him once in all of the years I have dealt with him.

So just wondering, how others deal with nervousness around doctors they have known for a long time?
I think I am nervous, because, I generally get this way, when I know something to be true or very likely true and I may have a disagreement with others when explaining why, or that they may misunderstand me.

How do others deal with this? I usually try to just fit past it and not vomit.

I sometimes also experience nervously around doctors I'm on friendly terms with. Sometimes I think of the doctor as my friend, and that's probably expecting too much. The doctor is engaged, by that I mean, the doctor is actively participating in the conversation (not every professional does), and the doctor knows his or her stuff. Still, still, the doctor has other patients, and at times to me seems to abruptly bring the conversation to a close just as I'm really getting going. Maybe the doctor needs to add some skills in more gently or graciously bringing the conversation to a close.

That might be expecting a bit much. Okay, if I can use an analogy from politics. Remember right after the election, President-elect Obama in the days leading up to his inauguration, there was discussion, do you go for your most important things all at once, or do you get a legislative victory and build from there? You will never have as good an oppotunity than at the beginning . . .

well, if you fail in talking with a doctor, you're not going to have four years of a cripled presidency, that's the good news! (and to be clear, I think President Obama has done a pretty good job all things included, he's done a number of good things, and first and foremost, stopping the slide of the economy)

So, do you front-load or not? And a doctor's so pressed from time, I think you clearly front-load. The three most important reasons you think you have Asperger's and leave it at that. And the doctor might be so pressed for time, that you only get to two of them, and that's okay.

And the doctor might have a mental map that someone with Asperger's is severly whatever or obviously doesn't fit in (and like you, I often do much better in more formal social settings than I do in loosey-goosey informal ones), and that's okay, too. Be ready to walk away still being friends.

The doctor might not be too good with Asperger's but may be good with pneumonia, breathing difficulties, depression, etc, etc. So, you might have to put the doctor on the bench so to speak, doesn't mean you need to fire him or her permanently for all time, just put him on the bench so to speak, and go see another doctor as needed