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08 Jan 2007, 3:40 pm

When I'm walking towards someone I know (at work for example), I always wait to see if they smile and say 'Hi' first.

but by the time they have said Hi, the person has passed me and I don't get the chance to reply back.

I've only just begun to realise I have a real problem with this and it must give other ppl the impression that I'm ignoring them.

although I don't have a problem with ppl I know really well. I always smile when I see them.

Anyone got any ideas that can help me with this???



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08 Jan 2007, 4:32 pm

i do this too, try taking signing lessons for deaf people, it really encourages you to make eye contact and read and more importantly give the proper facial expressions



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08 Jan 2007, 5:28 pm

I find that I need to make a concious effort to maintian Eye-Contact. I often find myself looking away and I need to remind myself to look the other person in the eye.



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10 Jan 2007, 4:24 pm

CockneyRebel wrote:
I find that I need to make a concious effort to maintian Eye-Contact. I often find myself looking away and I need to remind myself to look the other person in the eye.


Yep, me too. Although sometimes I don't have too much of a problem with it. But I do when people raise their voices at me.


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10 Jan 2007, 4:36 pm

Hiya Mork, fellow Lancastrian! Not seen you around here for a while. :)

Anyway, yes. I find it's better if you make sure that the person actually knows you're listening to what they're saying in a conversation. The thing I have a bit of difficulty with when people say hello is when they ask if I'm all reet. I often don't have chance to respond before they've either disappeared or they're too far down the road for me to respond.



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11 Jan 2007, 7:57 am

There's this girl that stared in my general direction a lot of the time, and me being afraid of eye contact have to look the other way till she stops looking. From what I've gathered, I think it's a look of curiosity.



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11 Jan 2007, 4:26 pm

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The thing I have a bit of difficulty with when people say hello is when they ask if I'm all reet. I often don't have chance to respond before they've either disappeared or they're too far down the road for me to respond.




You've got it. That's what I was trying to say, tho I think you did it better than me. lol



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11 Jan 2007, 5:10 pm

I tend to avoid looking at people because I tend to get 'lost' in their eyes which provokes the 'staring' responses and yeh...I'll shush now.


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11 Jan 2007, 11:10 pm

Ak, can't look directly into the eyes of scouse NTs, they can suck your souls out that way! 8O


Uhm, no, I don't really believe that.



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12 Jan 2007, 3:25 pm

I am unable to look folks in the eyes..I gain an unbearable sense of being x-rayed..like I'm trapped..under an enchantment that prevents my escaping their intimidating glance. I've attempted several times to establish this connection with people, but to no avail, this being a few years past, I ended up completely avoidin folks for past experiences and things I've observed, and I doubt I'll re-attempt the eye-contact skill anytime soon..perhaps one day though...



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13 Jan 2007, 11:23 pm

I rarely look people in the eye, unless it is a professor or something, and I feel that I have to. When people do smile at me, I rarely smile back. Usually I am not sure if they are actually smiling at me or another person. By the time I assume it was directed at me, we have passed each other.



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13 Jan 2007, 11:37 pm

I can' make eye contact easily...


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14 Jan 2007, 6:56 pm

I can't make eye contact for too long. I have to look away. I look at peoples mouths when speaking to them.



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14 Jan 2007, 7:01 pm

calibaby wrote:
I can't make eye contact for too long. I have to look away. I look at peoples mouths when speaking to them.


I do this a fair bit too, then realize what I'm doing and force myself to look somewhere else. Or if I do make eye contact, it's too intense. They're probably thinking "WTF?" :(



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14 Jan 2007, 8:07 pm

Yeah, its hard for me to maintain eye contact. However, I will do so if I like the person or if he/she is really interesting.



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14 Jan 2007, 8:31 pm

andy1976uk wrote:
Ak, can't look directly into the eyes of scouse NTs, they can suck your souls out that way! 8O


Uhm, no, I don't really believe that.

My brother, who is also on the Spectrum, genuinely believes that, however...


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