How to approach a group?

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Any advice on how to approach/join a group that is casually talking to one another at a social function?

Also on how to disengage from such a group?



Thanks!



*Please note I am not a technology junkie and may take hours or days to respond*

Listen to what they are talking about, and contribute when you hear something familiar. If you are welcome, they will encourage you to join in.
Disengaging... Well, say something along these lines: ''it was nice talking to you, see you later...''

I just walk up to the edge of the group and listen. Usually the group will shift a little to make room. If not, I just hang out there. If they have a problem with me joining them they can tell me. It is very impolite to have private conversations in public, especially at a social event where mingling is normal behavior.

Often it seems my comments are ignored. Once, hours later, I awkwardly asked someone (who knew I was autistic) if they heard what I said. They said yes, and told me it is normal that sometimes responses are not given and that I should not repeat myself.

To leave the group, I make an excuse like going to get a drink, or mingling with others. If I don't want to interrupt, I just walk away and let them wonder. If they ask, I use the excuses listed above.

Thanks! Those are great tips. I will try not to worry if they don't shift a little or respond to a comment.

What about nonverbal communication? I've been thinking it would be best to smile and make eye contact, particularly when trying to make a comment. I think a big part of the trouble is that I can't make a comment, even a "see you later", without feeling like I am interrupting. I try to wait for pauses in the conversation, but often there are none.