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mitharatowen
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22 Jan 2009, 4:58 pm

Yes it is. Thank you.



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22 Jan 2009, 6:50 pm

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When I stand and look at a group of women - a group of them together in particular - I feel as if I'm seeing them as a man would (just without the potential attraction!) I definitely feel as if I'm looking at something 'other', not a group that I'm a part of.


Yes this is how I feel.



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22 Jan 2009, 6:53 pm

mitharatowen wrote:
I mentioned something similar on a different thread. I don't particularly feel like I'm in drag.. but I feel like.. Like a nerd who tries to dress like the popular girls and everyone looks at her and is just thinking "wow what a faker, she really shouldn't try so hard to be pretty :roll: "


I feel the same about this too. If I try and dress too fashionably people come up and talk to me like I am this popular, successful female. Then I start talking and they look as if they dont know what on earth they are talking to. I guess that is why I dress down a lot of the time.



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22 Jan 2009, 7:13 pm

zen_mistress wrote:
mitharatowen wrote:
I mentioned something similar on a different thread. I don't particularly feel like I'm in drag.. but I feel like.. Like a nerd who tries to dress like the popular girls and everyone looks at her and is just thinking "wow what a faker, she really shouldn't try so hard to be pretty :roll: "


I feel the same about this too. If I try and dress too fashionably people come up and talk to me like I am this popular, successful female. Then I start talking and they look as if they dont know what on earth they are talking to. I guess that is why I dress down a lot of the time.


ditto :?



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23 Jan 2009, 8:24 am

zen_mistress wrote:
Anyway I dont know if I am the only one who feels like that or not. Maybe I am just weird!


No. For just about everything you wrote, I could relate. I'm also amazed at how many feel the same.

Am reminded of one shop job where I had to regularly monitor the women's changing room. Quite a weird feeling. But at least they didn't make me get involved in the bra fitting.


poopylungstuffing wrote:
If I ever dress in a particularly female way, I feel like I am in drag.


So that's what that feeling was! Though, if a man, I'd probably still do it to an extent.



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08 Feb 2009, 3:54 pm

zen_mistress wrote:
Hovis wrote:
When I stand and look at a group of women - a group of them together in particular - I feel as if I'm seeing them as a man would (just without the potential attraction!) I definitely feel as if I'm looking at something 'other', not a group that I'm a part of.


Yes this is how I feel.


Yes. It's a very strange feeling, and very uncomfortable. Sometimes I make the effort to wear the same kind of clothes, to have all the proper accessories etc. to fit in and I am quite proud of myself when I manage to 'pull it off'. But it feels awful because I know I'm only acting and my brain doesn't handle it well.



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08 Feb 2009, 4:24 pm

OMG, I can totally identify with this and I don't even consider myself much of a tomboy.

I never felt comfortable putting on dressy clothes even though I like them from a distance. I get the same feeling too like I'm a fraud or something....or a drag queen... :lol:

Even in grade school I felt uncomfortable around other girls because I felt like I was too masculine...even though I don't look or act it and out of place.

This is one of the biggest reasons I don't like to shop for clothes or even get into makeovers and hair. I feel butch and out of place....yet I don't know why.


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