My dad fits all the sighns of an abusive personality

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http://www.sylviasplace.com/signs.html He fits everyone except the sex part(wait he barges in on me in the shower does that count?)

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is it anynoumous

is it anynoumous, i dont want to start something that i cant really finish.

Yeah sound like my dad. Back in October 2005 he said I needed to be more submissive like the amish children. We had just gotten back from a trip there. I can understand that if I was oh say a child but not at age 35. He also TRIED to hit me that night but I stopped him. I told him he was abusive and he laughed at me. His reply was what about the abuse you do to me and mother. If I stand up to him I am told I am bitting the hand that feeds me. In Decemeber 2005 he threatened to throw me out of the house. My ssi case will be heard this summer. I plan to move out hopefully and closer to my cousins who knows that my parents are this way towards me.

That sort of what happened to me, but my dad is a disabled veteran. The other day he said I was like a 5 year old for making noises and pacing around. Can't really help it, the other day my mother called me lazy, then I yelled back and she apologized.

I think they are overwhelmed with having to care for me, though my ego does not want to admit to any more dysfunction.

I feel ret*d at times, mostly because of not being able to partake in society. That is why I am going to talk to the regional center, my local one about accepting people with A.S as there services are more individualized and respectfull.

I'd also like to work there, or do something like that.

I think my parents are overwhelmed too. Dad has just been through open valve surgery and prostrate cancer surgery with in the last three years or so. Mom is about a 10 year breast cancer survivor. Plus raising me was hard too because the public schools systemd didnt want to see me as learning disabled since I was an avid reader and could read well. My ego is used to being dysfunctional because even in childhood I was always taken for face value and never was really gotten to be know as a person.

As for a job, no thanks I had one. I dont do well in click situations and this goes back to my childhood and being in the Girl Scouts. In my small troop there was two clicks in there and neither one of them wanted anything to do with me.

gugh im starting think its not so bad, the medication they have been on is screwing up my memory and emotional responses, until it happens again

I too have problems with my parents (I have lived alone for good for 10 years, plus 4 before that at university). A lot of people don't understand us when we say our parents are like this or like that and we are hurt, damaged etc. My dad in particular exhibits most of the abuser signs as well (again, except the sex part). He has been diagnosed with depression (I know for sure he isn't an Aspie).

But at Wrongplanet, there are people who understand what you are going through.

He claims thats what my grandfather taught him, bullocks. I knew my grandfather way to well to believe that. My Granfather was kind charming witty, extremly intelligent, well informed(he was a engineer) all things my father is not. My dad could barely contain his salivation at his death so he could get the inheritance. He talked so much about how he was hoping he'd die(never said aloud about the inherantce i think i go ripped off)

They also have never taken my concerns seriously. i would tell them things and they would laugh in my face. or get really mad and tell me to shut up. espically when i caught them in a logical fallacy or outright lie. my mother is also a histronic. she can cry on command. she might also be slightly delusional. Once(well alot, ugh every day)(my memory is coming back a little) in middle school i would come home from school and she would turn intoa shrieking emotional batjob, before i had even said a word, making riduculus accusations and demands, over measly homework. She would have me crying everyday, until it dawned on me that it was a manipulatiive trick. Recently she actually watched my brother throw me into a wall and knock a big whole in it and swears he didnt do it.

My dad also has this funny way of speaking. Where he will say nothing and be extrodially repulsive doing so. Everything he says gradually escalates and is very inflammatory. say the wrong thing and he blows up. doesnt even have to involve him. and its not predicatable either.

They would also say things like they police are going to get you for not doing x. or God is punishing you for not being obediant. idont know if that means anything