I feel like s**t.

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I feel like everyone hates me on this forum

To all you people who think I'm a pervert: Go f**k yourselves. WTF is wrong with most of you people on the forum? isn't this supposed to be a forum where people get support? obviously not a**holes

I need comforting and assurance because I really feel hated.

Last edited by Cool_aspie on 27 Aug 2006, 11:16 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'm starting to think that the bashing thread, which was started in the spirit of fun, has done more harm than good.

If you took anything I said in there seriously, I'm sorry.

Sorry for exploding like this people, but I have a reason to be really ticked off. I've been cyber bullied by Subatai ever since I brought up the cousin topics and I really think he should be banned for attacking me, which goes against the rules in this forum.

Werbert, it was what you said on the "Who thinks I'm a pervert" topic.

Then subatai is a jerk. If any place should be free from bullying, it should be this board. He should be banned if he's pulling that kind of crap.

Also, I'm an imbecile, and, yes, a hypocrite too.

Don't be too hard on yourself man, it's mainly subatai who's pissing me off.
Your comment did hurt me, but it's petty to what subatai has been saying to me. I forgive you man.

Excellent!

Hey, Cool,

Did you ever stop to think that, you don't hear from many people here, because to most, your dilemna is no big deal. I don't mean about you as a person, but the situation you're beating yourself up over. It's not unique or original I can assure you of that. I also realize, that knowlege doesn't really help you find your way out of your wilderness. You will get this solved in a way that works for you.

Honestly I haven't read the first 2 threads, but I saw that this one was related to the perv thread and went back to read that one. Don't think I'm defending Sabutai against you, I haven't read everything, yet, but what I read in the perv thread was nothing more than a jolt of reality check and tough love from him. He could certainly have chosen other words to use, but what he says is true to some degree. If you are really having this much anguish over the situaton then you already have your answers. Follow your heart, balanced by your conscience.

No one is thinking less of you for a flesh (weakness) response to a blood (strength/bond) relative, especially a cousin who is not exactly the same as you genetically. Of course cousins marrying has happened in the past with high profile people and it was somewhat acceptable back then. Obviously it would be a strange family that would condone such a relationship, in these modern times, and that doesn't make the flesh any stronger, but the blood bond of the rest of the family is already speaking to you. Let go of the guilt if it's too much to bear and get yourself out of the situation that has started the stress.

On a side note, I've had crushes on 2 cousins before. MrMark mentioned having 31 cousins, but I have almost that many on each side of my family, and some are really pretty. I'm an old fart now, but I can still remember being a little unsure of myself and even getting so close to the point of no return that I lost all caring. I never took it all the way as we used to say, but we were in danger of doing just that on more than one occasion. How far we went is not the point, though. The fact is that our flesh is weak (as they say) and desire is powerful, enticing and hard to resist.

I still share a very strong relationship (closeness, not sex) with one cousin, but we are both married, she's got grown kids and I've got young ones and we live a thousand miles apart. We exchange phone calls, pictures, and Christmas cards. There is always a little extra effort put into hugs we share, in the rare times when we do get a chance to see each other, which is usually around a funeral now days. That's as far as it will ever go and I have no regrets having that kind of special love for the woman.

With the other cousin, the closeness, caring, and special bond never developed, but the sexual attraction was certainly there, mutually, when we were younger. It was just one of those white water moments that life has thrown my way at different times.

No one thinks less of you, for being human. Starting 4 threads is an indicator that you need to take action. Dig this thing out of you like it's a splinter, get free from all this anxiety you've been cultivating and move on past it. Start soon, before it's too late.

i don't hate you! i can understand what you're saying, and i can understand what subatai is saying and where the opinion would come from, but i don't agree with it. a crush is a crush! if it were your sister then i'd be worried but there is nothing wrong with voicing an opinion. isn't that what this forum was made for initially?

don't worry, you're okay in my book. you just have to learn not to let things that other people say get to you. i'm still working on it myself - i know i'd be offended too. but you've just gotta hang in there!

Sorry you're feeling low.

I read through the threads you mentioned and, to be honest, thought that most people were quite understanding and supportive. OK, some weren't, but then you did ask for opinions.

I didn't reply to the cousins thread because I didn't have anything new to add, but for what it's worth, I think it's quite normal. You mentioned in another thread that you're 14, if so you really shouldn't be worrying about marriage and the like yet, as you're much too young anyway.

Try to do something fun to cheer yourself up a bit, and don't take thoughtless comments too seriously.

I'm the one who started the random bashing thread. Sorry about your low feelings. Feel free to bash me!

I must admit that I've also got upset when people have joked about on me when I took it seriously. I'm not the only one.

Seriously guys, the sickest puppy on this board is Nomaken, God bless his weary soul. Cousin marriage pales in comparison to his interests.

So rest assured cool aspie, you really are cool, and if thinking cousin marriage is ok makes you a pervert, then I am a pervert too.

I've locked up the Bashing thread a couple of days ago, because I could see that it was getting out of line.

And I also think you're Cool.

You should not feel sorry. There was not one thing wrong with your thread. The
rules were explained and anyone not wanting to posts was free to stay away.
Now the important thing I learned from it all is why some people were hurt.

ASPERGERS!! !! !! !! !! ! It will make person A say the wrong thing to person B.
Person B will be hypersensitive and get hurt.

Now the super important questions are :

1) Do we avoid problem situations (pretend bashing threads)?

or

2) Do we learn very valuable info:
a)We say the wrong things no matter what.
b) We take things the wrong way no matter what.

I say a pretend bashing thread in the NT world would not be locked because
they could take it. We can not and that will be written on our tomb stones.