Anyone else feel an incessant urge to talk? I feel like an introvert with a forced extrovert side and it's malfunctioned. This is what happened:
My husband and I went to the bookstore. I was about to make a beeline for the science/math/nerd section and he was aiming for graphic novels. Unfortunately we ran into friends. The four of us (it was a couple) plopped down in the coffee bar section. Conversation ensued and I always feel really uncomfortable and numerous thoughts go through my head, like I'm talking too much, I'm looking at her husband too much, She's looking at me like I'm weird, OMG what did I say, I'm rambling, where do I put my hands, I seriously need to stop pulling on my earlobes, I'm twitching etcetera.
My husband was giving me lots of those "shut up" signals, like the Wild Eyed Glance, the actual Cut-It-Out Gesture, and even deployed the Instant Change of Subject Insert.
I was trying really hard to read that I was screwing up the conversation. I tried to say less, tried to listen and then ask questions, but I started feeling so uptight I grabbed my Tangle Toy from my purse and started mangling it under the table in an effort to stop interjecting.
Afterward, my husband told me I don't have to keep talking like that I could just sit there politely and listen (he's aware I am attempting to do this). I totally started crying and told him I find it extremely frustrating to sit in a conversation and try to well, converse with people. If I just sit there I feel like I'm supposed to be talking. If I'm talking I feel like I'm supposed to shut up.
Any suggestions? My personal thought was to go hide in my room and never come out. It's appealing.