Aspartners: Please step with me into a better world

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Dear VictoriaMary,

In this world, I believe there are biases and misconceptions about different groups of people. What I am trying to do is to help pave the way for a brighter future for all of humanity. I believe one way to do this is to attempt to eliminate biases and misconceptions in our own thoughts.

Personally, I do not agree that all AS women are evil incarnate and b*****s. I do not agree either that all b*****s and evil incarnate people are AS. I do believe yes, there may be some AS women who may be nasty pieces of work. I do believe there are NT women who are nasty pieces of work as well.

I do believe there NT and AS men who are nasty pieces of work as well. League_girl had dated an NT man and by what she describes as not a nice fellow. Lene dated an AS man who was not a nice fellow either. Lene can tell you her story if she wishes.

What if there are nasty people in every group no matter group it is? I believe there are real malicious people out. I do not believe all people with AS are malicious.

What I want is to help create a better way of doing things in this country and in the entire world. VictoriaMary, I believe if we all as humanity worked together we can create a better future for our children and our children's children. I believe our country has been brought to the brink of ruin because of the me,me,me,me mentality, our selfishness, and our greed. Personally, I believe the top down political way of doing things has failed us. I believe the bottom up way is the way we ought to go. I believe we can all work together. VictoriaMary, I am sorry if I was rude and nasty to you in the 1st edition of this post. Please, walk along side with me and step with me into a better world. This invite goes to those who are wrongplanet members, aspartner members and everyone else who reads this in the entire world.

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I can't speak for anyone else, but it makes me uncomfortable when fights from other forums come over here, especially with the kind of post title you've used. Perhaps if you led into it more gently, explaining why you want to post it here, and what you are hoping for from the readers of the thread?

Personally, I stay away from places like ASPartners entirely. It just makes me mad, and i don't know that there is much to be done for someone who wants to be bitter, and actively seeks for company others who also want to be bitter. They aren't really in a mental space to see things from a different angle, and I don't generally believe that they are influencing anyone towards those negative perceptions who did not already hold the same.

Ps - if I was a member there, which I am not and do not want to be, I would post that her Aspie-dar is flawed. Nothing in that description sounds Aspie to me. Rude and self-centered does not equal AS.

I changed my original post.

I hope I didn't sound harsh, but I do like the new approach better. You're a cool cat, to use a 60's expression.

Thanks and I really mean what I say. I let my anger get the best of me sometimes. I'm working on it.

How is this related to parenting a kid with AS/Autism?

Because there are a lot of misconceptions going around and it affects the kids. In the long scheme of things I do not believe it matters. I believe we have a chance and an opportunity to create unity. This isn't about AS and NT anymore. It is about all of humanity in my opinion. I want to help bring peace and love to this planet and I think it can be done but I believe it starts with us. The politicans have failed us time and time again in my opinion. I believe we the people of this world are the key but I believe we must all together. Our country's(USA) economy is in shambles. I believe we must take the bottom up approach to fix this whole mess we are in. I believe we all must remove our me,me,me and selfish mentalities and we need to love and give to others.

The women at aspartners may seem vile but they are filled with hatred. I am trying to battle my own hatred as well. It is a difficult enemy to defeat. It must be defeated. I believe we must love our enemies. To the aspartners I believe I am doing a very dangerous thing by doing this and may be vilified but I will validate you. I have gone into the den of lions. I do believe you all have emotional needs that aren't being met.

I believe though we can all work together. We can work together to build a better world. I believe we can all community build together. I am from a jewish background who has accepted Jesus as my lord and savior. I am urging everyone please do the same. Please get saved no matter if you're on wrongplanet or aspartners or anywhere else. Please ask him for forgiveness and to remove all of this hatred out of you(aspies,aspartners,etc)

Please, to my aspie brothers and sisters don't try to fight this world system anymore using the political top-down methods. It will not work because you can't make others do what they do not want to do. Look at the results with the americans with disabilities act. It took me a long time to realize this. We have to show them love and compassion and we have to do things from the bottom up. I am asking and imploring you all to stop all of this hatred, bickering,arguing, and attempting to get new laws passed. Please, I believe we need to do things a different way and I am asking you all to quit trying to make others do what they don't want to do.

Honestly I think you are overstepping your bounds by posting this here. I don't think it's relevant.

I come here for tips on raising my three year old son. Stuff like "how can I help him be more communicative."

I don't come here for political/religious rhetoric.

And sorry but judging by the name of that other site it's for gay men. I just had to say it.

No it's for people who are in a relationship/married to someone who has AS or suspected of having it. It's mostly a ranting site where they trash talk the condition and their partners.

It be GayPartners if it was for gay men.

Well it sounds like @$$Partners. Please excuse me for being juvenile.

When I first discovered I had Asperger's, that is the first site my then now ex-wife and I found. The amount of hate flowing from that site really, really hurt. I was suddenly questioning my ability to be a husband, and was devastated when my ex-wife openly wondered if I could be a capable parent.

That site is not to be confused with the other Deplhi forum AS and Partners, where there were really nice and helpful AS and NT couples to talk to.

http://asdrelationships.freeforums.org

is a better, aspie-friendly site for relationship advice and support stuff. It's mostly NTs married to aspies, but there are also some parents of adult aspies, and autistic people themselves. It's not abusive like the ASpartners Delphi one.