Should David and I just elope if we want to get married?

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Would eloping solve the problem of my brother's interference?

Maybe it's the big wedding ceremony that sets him off?

What do you think?

Thanks in advance!! !

I think your decision to elope or have a wedding should be about what you and David really and truly want to do. It’s not about your brother.

How long have you been together? You might want to give it more time.

When it comes to what I would do which may be very different from what’s right for you, I wouldn’t marry because I’m not into the idea of marriage, but if I did marry, I’d elope (perhaps after more time had elapsed) because I’m very shy and don’t like weddings or being the center of attention. I prefer blending into the wallpaper.

I really wanted to do a quiet island wedding so I wouldn't have to deal with the social crap. My now-wife wanted a traditional wedding with all the bells and whistles.

Guess who won?

Bottom line -- Do what works for the two of you. If the brother doesn't like it, too bad.

I feel the same about marriage, I'm not into the idea of marriage, I never even thought about marriage, if I did get married, I want to elope, planning a wedding is tooooo big, you get anxiety, get overwhelm, not for me, when my sister plan her wedding, it was tooo much for her. There one great thing, you get to call your boyfriend your husband.

I also believe marriage is VERY OVERRATED and mostly want it for the wedding and honeymoon experience!! !

Otherwise, I would just co-habitate instead!

One of the coolest weddings took place in our church about twenty five years ago.

The couple couldn't afford a really big wedding so they had their wedding as part of the church service on Sunday morning. Except for the church member who printed the bulletin each Sunday, hardly anyone in the congregation knew it was going to happen. The groom's relatives from other counties were pretty well known and so people started wondering when they looked around and noticed a number of them at the service. Then, when they looked at the church bulletin for that Sunday, it listed the wedding as part of the service.

They are still married. Their oldest kid just got married about a month ago and their second oldest is overseas in the US Air Force. That leaves two to go.

I'd assume that an elopement would reduce the wedding experience. The main reason I'd want to elope is so the wedding ceremony wouldn't be as much of a big deal or as big of a social experience.

I bet your brother is against you getting married because he's worried how your relationship with him & his life would change by you having more space from him. The wedding ceremony is much less of a concern for him. That said I believe the decision to get married or not & have a ceremony or an elopement should be between you & your partner, though I get how family interference could potentially be a very limiting factor & a major problem.

You are absolutely correct

It's the MARRIAGE ITSELF that he takes issue with not the wedding but the wedding is what will lead to marriage so...

Eloping sounds cool

It's probably the option I'd rather take if the question of marriage ever did crop up

Leave my jacuzzi room, now

If you find marriage overrated, and if the whole idea scares David, just co-habitate. That's what I plan to do.

And if y'all do opt for marriage, what does your brother have to do with it? I find that part weird.

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No...I DO want to get married but it IS overrated!! !

If I get married I will have to leave my brother so that is the reason he is so fervently against it!

He probably afraid that he won't see you alot & that really scaring him, you should buy him a puppy. Is he younger than you? My guy friend name is David too.