Forgiveness; grudge , "thin line between love and hate"

Post Reply New Topic

There are a few people at my work, who are still there I've hated for years and I will celebrate the day karma gets them. There are a couple ex-coworkers who let's just say got their just desserts, especially one that tried to get me fired once. Then another Ex-co-worker who finally got exposed for his BS, I knew the guy was no good from the start but everyone else seemed to think he was this great guy. In reality he was bully, loudmouth, hard ass wannabe, and just a piece of s--t.

While not always, at times people in the workplace get theirs's. When it happens, I laugh my head off.

^
Yes we had one like that but he never got found out. Mercifully he left after a couple of years. Spoiled everything he did. Apart from myself there was only one other person there who knew what he was up to.

Like loosing a loved one, can’t forget, can’t let go. Can just learn to live with it. I ruminate for years, even decades. Consumed large amount of content finding different ways of handling it. I've accepted the reality, don't fight it and just let it play in the background while I focus on more important things. Such as not bringing it up.

My 2 cents here:
Love - Hate
For me it boils down to whom do we give ownership of our minds.
When facing a similar "I hate" dilemma, I humbly ask the question can and will I take action in the outside world(outside of my head I mean ) to change any of the parameters here? If the answer, as is so often the case, a resounding "no". I actively inhibit myself of thinking about this person/situation. And after a day or so this gets to be my default state. This does not imply that I necessarily forgive someone, as this needs to be earned, it just makes it so that the deficit they need to bridge before receiving the authority to bounce around in my head has increased.

hope this helps,
kind regards,
Kada

There'll be no forgiveness for those who've wronged me.

According to The Cult Of Cartman, "if thine enemy offendeth thee, thou shalt wreak thy vengeance a thousandfold." Say what we will, I think there's a little bit of Cartman in all of us.

I've forgiven the people who have wronged me.

Eye for eye, tooth for tooth—
But vengeance ends, uncouth and mute,
Where blind men stumble, toothless too,
And justice fades with none to sue.

_______________________________________________________

"hating people takes energy", but loving people takes energy too.

"thin line between love and hate". love and hate both lead to actions and statements that later get regretted.

some precious lil "people" act like everything is a "serious crime" and "not forgivable". "pick your battles" sounds like good advice, but some precious lil "people" pick ALL the battles.