Periods and autism/development delays

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Hi there, Im a mum to a 13 year old girl who Im expecting will be starting her period any time soon now. My daughter has a condition called Rahmans Syndrome and this causes many development delays, along with autisum. She my be 13 but her personality and character is more like a 7 year old. She is aware that me and her sister have periods, that we bleed, use towels/tampax, how they work etc. She is even aware that our dog has periods!
I don't feel that the conversations Ive tried to have with her about all this actually going in or being understood. Ive googled some possible appropriate books to read through with her but in reality I have no idea on how Im going to handle this and more importantly I have no idea how she is going to handle this. Can anyone, teenager or parent give me any advice on how to possibly deal with this.

Thank for sharing you post.
It’s clear how much love and care you’re putting into supporting your daughter through this transition.
It’s completely understandable to feel uncertain, especially when developmental and sensory differences are involved.
I'm a man, but also a dad of 1 true and 1 adopted daughters and had to guide them trough this as well.

You're already doing something really important: starting the conversation early and making her aware of what periods are.
Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s sinking in, repetition and gentle reinforcement can go a long way over time!
My eldest daughter is now well into her teens(16yo) and I just recently caught her explaining a delicate subject to one of her girlfriends using the words I gave her. (while at the time, I would have bet money on her not hearing a word I said )

Here are a few ideas that helped us:

Use visuals and routines: Many kids respond well to visual aids. You might try using a simple illustrated guide or social story that walks through what a period is, what to expect, and what to do. There are even printable period charts or calendars you can use to help her track and prepare.
(https://able2learn.com/products/i-have- ... pages.html, https://www.socialworkerstoolbox.com/pr ... e_vignette )

Practice with products: Let her explore pads or period underwear in a calm, pressure-free setting. Practicing how to use them before her period starts can reduce anxiety when the time comes.

Sensory-friendly options: Some girls find regular pads uncomfortable. You might look into period underwear as did my daughter, or organic cotton pads, which can be softer and less irritating.

Keep it private but not secret: Help her understand that periods are normal and nothing to be ashamed of, but also explain the social norms around privacy in a way she can grasp.

Most importantly, you’re not alone. Many parents of neurodivergent girls have walked this path and found ways to make it manageable—and even empowering—for their daughters.

Sending you lots of support. You’re doing a wonderful job just by being proactive and open-hearted about this.

Kind regards,
Kada