What are your pet peeves in social situations?

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A few of them

1. Whenever someone seems to play mind games by asking you a question. When you answer, that person says "No that's not my question." That one really pushes my buttons. Another thing they do is "That still does not tell me anything."

2. Whenever someone asks you for something or they agree to do something with you. Then when it boils down to it, this person ends up springing it up on you that they have to get XYZ first. To make it worse, they take their time doing XYZ and then wondering why you left or got mad at them.

I don't understand why friends say that they really like my directness but when my directness is focused on them, they get upset.

Nobody likes being criticized, even if they recognize that being criticized is a necessary evil.

A person who appreciates directness is a person who (like me) would rather be criticized than be ghosted or given the silent treatment or mysterious bad vibes. The person might even recognize that listening to criticism is a necessary step toward resolving an interpersonal problem.

But still, it's not fun. It's just the least of the evils.

My pet peeves include:

1) Being compelled or pressured to wear uncomfortable clothing. I avoid "formal" events for that reason.

2) Cliquish groups that are supposedly open to new members, but make no effort to help newcomers feel welcome.