Does anyone hate being female?

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I don't mind parts of being female, but the societal expectations are probably the most annoying part of being a female. You're supposed to look like a stick with big boobs, have all of your hair perfectly groomed, clear skin, tanned, wear a lot of makeup "naturally" so you don't look like a slut, love all gossip, get all goo-goo gaga about babies and adorable animals, PMS being the only reason you're upset, always on a diet, loves shopping sprees and shoes, obsessed with Twilight and the like, giving empathy to everybody, always playing mind games, bad at math/science, love reality shows, hate sports and getting dirty, being obsessed with marrying and weddings, etc. I could go on for a long time on this list.

But the worst part is the double standards. It's acceptable for a man in my area to be overweight/obese and have ridiculous appearance standards for who they will date, but no woman is ever supposed to impose even weight standards on their boyfriends. And if a woman gets to 30 and isn't married she's desperate and everyone is pressuring her to marry the next man who walks by her because she's old, while men who are single and 30 are just enjoying the single life and can always find some 20 year old who will date them.

I don't mind physically or mentally being female, it's just the assumptions of society that make life more frustrating than anything.

I agree with the person who said that I don't like it, but I don't hate it. being female is easier because the rules can slide, but also that has some consequences like being judged as being a certain way because of gender.

Being female and plasticity topic

I like my gender at my present age because I do not have to worry about men being interested in me because of "favours". That is all behind me now.

Plastic females, the ones glorified by she-males and cross dressers, are ludicrous. This superficiality is not what being a female is all about. Looks are fleeting, so when you are older and wiser you can shed the plastic veneer and contribute in a more philosphical way. Perhaps some men reach this level, as well.

I don't like that my body is designed for having babies.

I don't like that I can't put on muscle mass even if I work out so heavily I almost black out.

I don't like that I have to work out just to be able to bench my own weight, while my brother gets stronger naturally even though all he does is stim and go for walks, because he's a male and he has androgens rampaging around his bloodstream, while I have...what...useless hormones that ready my body to have....BABIES. Yuck, hate, vomit.

My mom says she can see my thick obliques at 50 yards...describes them as Cyborg-esque...she just said it to make me feel good, I'm sure. I don't remotely look like Cyborg Santos.* I look like this freaking soft incubator device.

*My favourite female MMA fighter. This beautiful angel of destruction here...http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cristiane_Santos

I am living as a male to such an extent that when I catch a glimpse of my androgynous-looking self in a mirror or bathe, I am shocked to not see a male. Everything would feel so much more congruent in a male body. My self-confidence would increase due to this sense of congruency. I would not feel so odd and confused around my new girlfriend.

I felt like I had emotional blood-poisoning in kung fu class yesterday.

It's super hot here, so we all took our shirts off to avoid overheating (yeah including me...I was wearing a sports bra top underneath, lol)...

And the guys look like these beautiful machines...defined...powerful...And I look like this f*****g soft uterus sack.

It's a stupid issue to have, I know. Rational thought doesn't make it go away. Calmly putting it in context doesn't make it go away.

I feel neutral and I don't have anything against my female part.
But recently I gained some weight and I look more xxx-movies-like than usually. Summer isn't my friend. I have some problems with rude males. I have to be thinner.

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You guys bring up a lot of good points. I don't hate my female self but ugh...the bodily functions, those are the worst I think. I think having kids wouldn't bother me so much if I knew a man would stick around...no I'm not saying men wouldn't but I've seen so many women go single and then deal with these expensive divorice courts, troubles with child support and so on. Too much burden to bare on a child.

As for other stuff, I guess I've always had low self esteem. As a girl, I had both girl and boy interests. My boy interests however made it hard when it came to sports. I wanted to be as good as the boys in basket ball and baseball, those were my favorites sports!! ! I remember having some boys teasing me asking if I was a dyke or why I'd be reading that stuff. I'm socially clueless so I don't know if other girls weren't or if they were saying that to get a rise out of me. Nevertheless, it really hurt me. I was confused about my sexuality not because I was attracted to girls since I knew I wasn't, I knew from the beginning I was attracted to guys, but I really did feel like the archetype of a dyke which meant men would never be interested in me.

Btw, I'm not putting lesbians down in this forum, it's more about being put down more than anything else. This forum is open to guys too btw. I just never felt like I could fit with any gender even though there are both aspects I enjoy in both of them. I still go through this crap of the labels in being a "feminazi" if I hate the way guys stereotype women or I'm a slut or b***h or whatever. I'm still not only sensitive but see such a double standard in these words. I see so many guys get away with being both old but with a young girl or being fat but getting to be a musician. Maybe some of us do it to ourselves? I don't know, I've had a long history of being socially clueless and yet out there.

I guess female or not it all goes down to fitting in and I've always had such a hard time pretending to be something I'm not. I think some people take it the wrong way, like I'm this raging man hater or girl that got molested by a male. This weird since I've gotten along well with guys more than girls....why I don't know.

Anyhow one thing I love about this forum, so many people here who also have social issues regarding genders!! !

I wish to be a man, in my next life.

Nah, I don't want a penis.

I guess I don't mind that I am ultimately female, but would like to reduce to a more androgynous state...

I used to think I was supposed to be a male, but I was mistaken. There's so much telling us that being female means you have to be a certain way, and that's just crap. Once I figured out that "ways of being female" included everything about the natural me, I was fine

It isn't too bad. I just hate what society expects us to do. I hate how we're expected to be so social.

I don't mind being a girl, with the exception of the monthly periods and finding effective birth control that doesn't involve taking large doses of hormones.

The ridiculous pressures society exerts to get us to conform to gender stereotypes is something I do find problematic, but for me it just falls under a heading of "stupid societal rules that I ignore."

I hate being a woman sometimes. I have more male friends than female friends and there's always sexual tension I don't want from them. I also don't feel like I want to have kids because I don't feel like a motherly human being and when I get my periods all I can think about is how much I want my uterus removed. I feel I'd be more emotionally stable without those produced hormones and healthier too cause I'm prone to B12 deficiency.