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14 Jan 2026, 7:17 pm

Arabian_Ivy wrote:
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- Blink less often.


There's an ideal range. If you don't blink enough people start to think you have ASPD.

It’s an act to confuse “bullies.”
People blink more often when they’re scared.
I blink way more when intimidated and faced with confrontation. I don't deal with people well and my communication skills are very much lacking.


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14 Jan 2026, 7:19 pm

traven wrote:
specially the walking
it still frightens me to pass by a bunch of kids or teens,
actually nothing has happened in years
blending in with all old people? or not going near such things anyway?

i don't think there is much you can do

once, suddenly homeless, on my way to another place i walked by a youth cult thing and they started to scream and be nasty at me (youth for christ that time, sects were quite common those days, some bagwan people were the most unstable)(oh i have that now with the 'alt' crowd(boomers) they feel the deep need to exclude me beforehand, and shamelessly)
what can you do,
i don't know them, they don't know me
its a bonding ritual to them maybe

silent target
even in your own house, they take your place and try to push you of the cliff of being present,
(ow come to think of it, the inlaws (f&m) had a preference that way too)

:shrug: :shrug:
Yeah, silent targe is right.


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14 Jan 2026, 7:21 pm

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I would really like to know others opinion on this. For as far back as I can remember, I endured bullying form other kids in school and I also had to deal with adult bullying. I don't know why I was always a walking target to other hate but I got way more bullied from others than other people I ran into. Also nobody every had my back in life. I feel like I'm attention seeking by posting this but this is eating me up inside and I don't know what to change or even if I would want to change - I don't hate myself or my traits. I'm very timid and meek and I avoid eye contact nowadays because society has become so toxic and sh***y now in America towards to Autistic adults. We are on our own. Help is just not there. I live a life if isolation now and avoid other people as much as possible.

Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for reading and I hope others are doing better than I am.


They like to exploit what they think are weaknesses in people

You're right not to change who you are. That's what they want you to do. That's how they get their kicks

Hopefully as you get older you will learn techniques that will help you defend yourself against them

Sorry I can't offer anything better

Take care man
I really appreciate your kind advice. As I've gotten older I've learned to keep to myself to avoid confrontation.


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14 Jan 2026, 7:35 pm

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Arabian_Ivy is right upright posture is important. I met a guy who tried to make himself smaller in the city by stooping over so he'd be invisible to bad guys. I told him that made him a target and he should stand upright. His confidence went up when he changed his posture.

Situational awareness shows you know how to protect yourself so be aware of what's happening around you

You could also do Ju Jitsu which would give you confidence because you'd be very good at fighting if you needed to. Just make sure to wear headgear to not get cauliflower ears
I've never gotten into a physical altercation - I've always managed to turn the other cheek.


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14 Jan 2026, 7:37 pm

traven wrote:
...specially the walking
it still frightens me to pass by a bunch of kids or teens,
actually nothing has happened in years
Much like you I'm holding on to the past as I've not been bullied too much over the years but the scars from the past are there.


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14 Jan 2026, 10:14 pm

exec wrote:
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Arabian_Ivy is right upright posture is important. I met a guy who tried to make himself smaller in the city by stooping over so he'd be invisible to bad guys. I told him that made him a target and he should stand upright. His confidence went up when he changed his posture.

Situational awareness shows you know how to protect yourself so be aware of what's happening around you

You could also do Ju Jitsu which would give you confidence because you'd be very good at fighting if you needed to. Just make sure to wear headgear to not get cauliflower ears
I've never gotten into a physical altercation - I've always managed to turn the other cheek.


I'm sure turning the other cheek will stop you getting in a fight. People can sense (sometimes) when someone is very strong plus although you wont get in a fight to begin with you'll feel less fear

ju jitsu translated to english is "the gentle art" but it is a big investment so not doing it is a option

you asked in the haven what makes people a target



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23 Feb 2026, 7:18 pm

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Arabian_Ivy is right upright posture is important. I met a guy who tried to make himself smaller in the city by stooping over so he'd be invisible to bad guys. I told him that made him a target and he should stand upright. His confidence went up when he changed his posture.

Situational awareness shows you know how to protect yourself so be aware of what's happening around you

You could also do Ju Jitsu which would give you confidence because you'd be very good at fighting if you needed to. Just make sure to wear headgear to not get cauliflower ears
I've never gotten into a physical altercation - I've always managed to turn the other cheek.


I'm sure turning the other cheek will stop you getting in a fight. People can sense (sometimes) when someone is very strong plus although you wont get in a fight to begin with you'll feel less fear

ju jitsu translated to english is "the gentle art" but it is a big investment so not doing it is a option

you asked in the haven what makes people a target
Thank you and I'm sorry I missed your reply. I'm a gentle man and I don't want to change that but my sensitivity is something I need to work on but I can't see how because I have feminine traits that I can not disguise and I also don't want to change that either - I just act like "myself" (whatever that is) and the good people accept me as is without judgement and I don't have to pretend to be something I'm not.


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23 Feb 2026, 7:25 pm

As far as self-defence goes, soft styles are fairly compatible with viewing one's self as gentle.

Grappling and deflecting/redirecting an opponents attacks can often quickly lead to an attacker getting frustrated and retreating because they worry about outside interference, and also might worry that you're messing with them and might escalate violently.

Basically the fact that you're 'winning' but not even trying to hurt them can make a lot of attackers (especially relatively untrained attackers) quickly doubt their ability to overcome you, causing the attacker to disengage.


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24 Feb 2026, 7:52 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
As far as self-defence goes, soft styles are fairly compatible with viewing one's self as gentle.

Grappling and deflecting/redirecting an opponents attacks can often quickly lead to an attacker getting frustrated and retreating because they worry about outside interference, and also might worry that you're messing with them and might escalate violently.

Basically the fact that you're 'winning' but not even trying to hurt them can make a lot of attackers (especially relatively untrained attackers) quickly doubt their ability to overcome you, causing the attacker to disengage.
Thank you for the advice ... I guess being docile has saved me thus far so I must be doing something right because nobody has physically attacked me in a while ... just verbal assaults that I can't control. I keep to myself anyway and am reclusive nowadays. I don't trust people because I never know whom is a M.A.G.A and they scare me. Where I live, luckily we don't' have them here in this blue state, but there still are pockets of them in other towns that I avoid for my safety.


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24 Feb 2026, 10:58 pm

What makes some people a 'walking target'?

A reticule.



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Today, 12:26 am

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