Does anyone hate being female?

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I feel like crap seeing my brother go through adolescence and put on a whole moloch-load of muscle just by sitting on the sofa stimming...I'd die to be able to get strong and defined...I feel like crying seeing him turn into this mutant creature when I never will.

Admitted, I went through a change like that when I was 14, suddenly I could do pushups and pull ups, but nothing compared to that of a male.

Yup...f**k being female, it sucks.

Reasons to hate being an Aspie female:

- There's far less of your kind to relate to or develop a support group with (in real life anyway)
- NTs cant tell the difference between NT girls and AS girls (many dont even believe in the existance of AS girks) so when an AS girl is unintentionally not social, she's automatically accused of being mean
- Being a rare species overattracts too many AS males, but also weirdos, creeps, losers. I cant share any of my interests with guys anymore. I cant tell which of my male friends enjoys hanging around me or which ones are just trying to bonk me.

At least those are my reasons.

And they are very good reasons, I was so caught up in hating my own hormones I forgot how difficult everything else is to deal with. It's not so nice being unable to connect with other women. I find myself always having males friends because female NTs scare me, my mother by far is most difficult and she has very little understanding or empathy for me. So I have no real emotional bond with my mother.

I've somehow managed to lower my body fat percentage so low, I'm not menstruating. I don't know how, I haven't been dieting or working out that much, but I love it. I feel healthy again.

And I love the definition that comes with super low body fat. I've finally got visible obliques, lol. I love them, I really do.

Is that healthy?

It's not exactly a "Cyborg" figure.

Sure she cut's to 145 but she bulks up as soon as she has weighed in.

Lol I'm never gonna look quite like that. I've the bone structure of a little bird.

And I couldn't care less if it's what would officially be called healthy. I feel okay all the time, not just the first half of a menstrual cycle. No mood swings. No explosive rages over minor crap. No anemia. No cramps, no being in horrendous pain to the point of puking and feeling dizzy. No flux in my cognitive skills. No losing my verbal skills suddenly but finding I can easily judge distance visually and then next week the two have switched around.

I feel healthy. I am sure as hell not going to go to the doctor and get 'sorted out' so I can go back to suffering from all that crap every month.

Women are equal to men, though we are different, we should be treated the same, not like people who don't deserve as much as men or sex objects. Luckily I live in the UK where women are very lucky and are, by law, treated in the same way as the male gender.

I personally am very happy being female, but there are occasional little scenes in my life where I wish I could be male (periods, basically). I like wearing girl clothes and I generally like females, but I don't endlessly think that I want to be a different gender. My personality, likes and dislikes would probably change if I was male and I'd have real problems with beards, a deep voice and all that. Whatever gender you are, you should make the most of it.

I've been dreaming of the same thing. I wonder if it will ever happen to me. I don't intend to starve myself to do it as that is counter-productive but if I get there by working out I won't complain.

Interesting question as to whether it is "healthy". I certainly had a shocked reaction to your post just as I have had a shocked reaction to my own thoughts about the same thing. But here is another angle that I have been considering:

Perhaps people see stopping menstruating as a bad thing because it means a woman is no longer fit for her "purpose" as a baby machine. They think that a woman must have to be really ill for her body to "break down" like that and "stop functioning". But maybe our bodies are cleverer than we think and in fact a woman's body has two modes, a fertile mode and an active, surviving, protecting, dynamic mode. When a woman's life is comfortable, which in primitive terms is easily measured by the presence of fat, she becomes fertile because the conditions are right for reproduction. When the body fat is low that signifies that it is not a good time to reproduce and her energy is directed into the activity and heightened senses required for survival, aggression and protection - the way men's is all the time.

It doesn't mean you're ill, it just means you're active enough to bring your fat down and then your body interprets that as signifying that you need to use your energy on yourself and on the people you love who are already alive, not on pushing out the zillionth human on the planet. Which sounds like a damn good idea to me!

@mechanicalgirl, I've a feeling we might get some flak for these posts

I agree. People still have this idea of women as baby makers, and seem to find the idea of a woman who isn't, very jarring.

I didn't have periods for nearly a year when I was 18 and I certainly wasn't ill. I felt healthy and alert all the time not just the weeks when my hormones were okay. I was a lot calmer and a lot of my emotional issues disappeared.

as long as you are healthy then who cares if your periods have stopped.

I wish mine would stop. They are heavy and they bloody hurt.

I would like to stop getting my period, but that's about all I dislike. Being a woman is much better than being a man, in my opinion. I think we are freer to be feminine, masculine or whatever in between whereas if we were a man doing that we would get called "gay" or something else insulting.

Being female is also better for our emotions. From a young age men are socialized to keep their feelings inside or to punch them out. By the time they are teenagers they have no idea how to truly feel or express themselves.

Besides all that, penises are gross. If I had to look down at one of those everyday I'd vomit!

Sometime I hate being a girl! I mean, it seems like everything bad almost always happens to a female.

Just wondering, have you tried powerlifting? I have helped at (drug free) powerlifting comps for a few years and there are plenty of women around the 60 Kilo mark and under doing over 2x BW squats and close to 3x BW deadlifts and so-on. They really only lack a little compared to males at the same weight in the benchpress due to the difference between men and women in upper bodies, but seriously squat and deadlift is directly comparable from what I've seen.
Powerlifting training is addictive!

Lol, I already bench my own weight and squat nearly 2x that

Excellent figures! I know how hard it was to be able to bench my BW it took me ages, I'm built like a beanpole with long skinny arms so haven't got beyond that yet.

I neither strongly like or dislike being female. I just am.

While I don't go around singing the South Pacific song "I Like being a Girl..." and flouncing about, I don't want to be a man. But then I grew up in the 60's and was totally mystified by everyone who said they needed to "find themselves"??? I wasn't lost.

My husband says he's married to Mr. Data (from Star Trek), except that I don't really want to expereince strong emotions (like Mr. Data was always curious about). it seems to me people with them let them run (ruin) their lives. At times anyway.

I am more comfortable talking to men, and that's easy given my work. But I think it's because women (especially those my own age) are perhaps quicker to sense something 'wrong' with me. I get much more funny looks from women than men. Men simply think you're odd because you are a woman, the women know better.