People "choosing" to be gay.

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I think the idea that someone would choose to be gay is absurd. I couldnt ever imagine myself or any of my (straight) friends just deciding one day we find people of the same gender to be sexually desirable. Theres a huge difference between deciding to admit to yourself that your gay and deciding to be gay.

I stilll think it's a matter of discovering one's latent homosexuality than wilfully readjusting one's sexual preference. If a person has a homoerotic sexual encounter and find that it is enjoyable, that is nothing more than their latent homosexuality rising to the surface.

I believe that individual humans are each born with a scope of sexuality potential. During engagement with the environment potential is shaped and channeled into actuality. For some individuals their innate sexuality potential might be very limited or exceptionally broad in particular aspects. Some people for instance might have a strong propensity towards heterosexuality such that no environmental effect can shift them to homosexuality, some might have a strong propensity towards object fetish such that it is unlikely the person will not develop a sexual object fetish in response to environmental engagement.

So while most people (being part of their own environment) can influence the development of their own sexuality, they cannot determine it, and further they (the individual) are only one factor among many, and the will of the individual is probably one of the least influential factors in determining sexuality for most persons.

If a person has a homosexual encounter and enjoys it , it just means they enjoyed it and nothing is coming to the surface latent or otherwise. This is some schoolbook theory that was disproved about forty years ago.

False dichotomy anyone? Not being born with something doesn't meant you choose to get it some point later in life. Though obviously, in relation to the "issue" in terms of morals choice nor innateness prove nothing.

So it comes down to Nature vs. Nurture, does it?

I think it could be either natural or learned. Those you can tell from a mile away were probably born that way. Their posture and physique are a little bit different than heteros. Others I can't tell. I think those learn it.

I'm straight and as far as I know I made no conscious decision to prefer women. I was probably born heterosexual. I have a hunch that your sexuality is prewired even before you understand what sex is. As a toddler your sexual identity is probably just lying in wait, waiting for puberty to begin. Even if your parents nudge you into the gender stereotype as a baby, with pink/blue colours, Barbie or GI Joe, it might not make any difference. And the older you get, the less subtle and more prevalent those attempts to shoehorn you into a gender stereotype become.