Sometimes I think I'd give anything for a girlfriend...

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06 Feb 2010, 10:40 pm

...but to be honest most nights I find myself here alone... and tonight I asked myself "would I actually want a girlfriend to be here right here and now"... and I think no... I like being alone to an extent. In fact I like being alone most of the time... I doubt I could even handle a relationship if I somehow managed to get one. I'm coming to the realization that translating psychological and emotional fantasies of love and companionship which I've never even actually experienced for real into real life situations, which usually consist of me sitting in my living room every night getting drunk/high and watching TV... it'll never happen.

I hate being alone but I enjoy it in a lot of ways. To be honest, I would probably be fine being who I am for the rest of my life if it wasn't for the constant and incessant social pressure to "find a girlfriend" and "get laid"... sometimes I am considering just dropping everything I know and have and becoming a transient exploring and enjoying the anonymity of some guy who would never be identified if he died of "unknown causes" under a bridge one night.

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07 Feb 2010, 1:27 am

Sounds just like me. I've never really had a real girlfriend -- nothing ever official, but I've kissed girls a few times. I keep coming home to my dark, quiet, and empty apartment every night, alone. At school, it's like every single girl already has a boyfriend... I don't even try anymore. Especially considering I'm pretty overweight.

Take solace in the fact that when you're alone, nobody can hold you back from doing what you want to do. That's the way I see it at least. Nobody there to say "I don't wanna do *whatever*" or "do *this* for me". I think everything will fall into place eventually, however... things always do, don't they?



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07 Feb 2010, 3:34 am

Sometimes, I think I'd give anything not to see a bunch of whiners here come here and whine about not being able to get a girlfriend. Get over it! Women do not like spineless men.



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07 Feb 2010, 4:26 am

Women don't like jerks either... :roll:


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07 Feb 2010, 1:02 pm

I used to think that I'd do anything for a girlfriend, until yesterday. I'm not going to put myself in that boat any longer. When it happens, it'll happen. I've probably turned off countless numbers of girls by acting nuts because of trying to win them over. I think sometimes I act excessively desperate. Now I'm not going to care anymore.



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08 Feb 2010, 1:59 pm

Kenjuudo wrote:
Women don't like jerks either... :roll:


Yeah they do. :roll:



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08 Feb 2010, 8:34 pm

^^
And some do not.

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08 Feb 2010, 8:37 pm

I've never had a girlfriend
and doubt if I'll ever find one.


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08 Feb 2010, 8:50 pm

I agree with you; I want a girlfriend sometimes just so I can experience it and see what it's like. I want to see what it would be like to be with a girl and have one who actually shows me affection but at the same time, I feel that there's too much baggage with girls and that sometimes it's best to keep things the way they are. I feel that relationships aren't worth it. Yes I want to see what it's like to get kissed but hey we can't have everything right?


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08 Feb 2010, 9:25 pm

What's interesting is a lot of girls on the forum are going through the exact same thing. I think we need AS/ASD meet-up groups or something. Relationships would naturally develop.



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09 Feb 2010, 11:05 am

Venger wrote:
Kenjuudo wrote:
Women don't like jerks either... :roll:


Yeah they do. :roll:


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09 Feb 2010, 11:09 am

valkyrieraven88 wrote:
What's interesting is a lot of girls on the forum are going through the exact same thing. I think we need AS/ASD meet-up groups or something. Relationships would naturally develop.


That is such an excellent idea.


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09 Feb 2010, 2:54 pm

valkyrieraven88 wrote:
What's interesting is a lot of girls on the forum are going through the exact same thing. I think we need AS/ASD meet-up groups or something. Relationships would naturally develop.


We need to make some for high functioning aspies.

I think a lot of high functioning aspies are repelled from going to these because most of them cater for people that are low functioning and downs syndrome etc.

Makes you feel even more alienated.



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09 Feb 2010, 2:57 pm

Venger wrote:
Kenjuudo wrote:
Women don't like jerks either... :roll:


Yeah they do. :roll:
In that case, please elaborate on your definition of "jerk"! I do not think you could stereotype women liking men who conform to the actual meaning... :roll:


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09 Feb 2010, 4:36 pm

Kenjuudo wrote:
Venger wrote:
Kenjuudo wrote:
Women don't like jerks either... :roll:


Yeah they do. :roll:
In that case, please elaborate on your definition of "jerk"! I do not think you could stereotype women liking men who conform to the actual meaning... :roll:


I know that being a "womanizer" is considered to be a major trait of ASPD(sociopath).