Would you ever consider a male roommate?

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So after my recent drama with my current roommate has me wondering if a male roommate might work out better than a female roommate. After all, they say Aspie women are more like men in a lot of ways...

The issues that might preclude it -- that we'd be tempted to have a relationship -- I'm not worried about because I am absolutely not dating right now. And I'd have my own bathroom.

But still. It'd be a guy. And there's always a little bit of that weirdness there.

What do you all think?

It's gonna really depend on the guy though. There are really no guarantees when it comes to whether or not male or female roommates are better. But if you seem to get along better with guys vs girls in the normal environment than I say go for it. Most of my friends are male anyway.

Still, even with guys, chances are you'll either get an incredibly messy guy or you'll get a clean freak.

In either case, there's a chance of getting someone who is VERY picky or a control freak about their surroundings.

Between messy vs clean though I think the lesser of two evils would be the messy guy if they're not picky. I see clean freaks as people who are set to bite your head off at the smallest amount of disorder in their environment. For someone sensitive like me I'd rather tidy up after someone else than get screamed at.

I've had both and I think I prefer males.

I would make a good male roomate (no sexual innuendo intended)

The only time that I ever had a roommate was when I went to RIT for the FIRST robotics competition. Spent two nights in a microtel room with a guy I'd befriended at school. I knew that I'd never get along with the other guys. The gender thing does make me curious, but I suspect that I'd only be able to live with another person for short durations.

I'd have a hard time with any roommate, but if I had to choose, I'd probably most like a gay man because most of my closest friends were gay men and we got along great. I even sort of lived with one of them for two months.

I don't tend to get along with a lot of women so I don't think I'd ever want to live with one as a roommate. Haven't known any AS females though, I think I could probably easily live with some of you on here.

No matter which gender, they'd have to be the laid back, quiet type. Or at least go out to have their parties, I could not deal with having parties going on around me unless I knew everyone already.

I considered. I think it doesn't matter if I have male or female roommate. If it's quiet and unsociable person, it's ok. I don't want loud and crazy party lover any gender.

Dark side of male roommate is that most men want to touch me... and more. I'm not asexual, but I don't have wild lust for everything what's alive and doesn't run away from me

Depends on the guy/person really.

I've seen some guys also get overly dramatic though in a somewhat different way than women.

I live with a neat freak who has to gripe about everything, my dad /:

I think men are easier to deal with because they tend to be more straightforward.

I think men are easier to deal with as friends, but I would not want one as a room mate, especially a stranger.

Unsavoury, and unfair as it may be to most men, there are risks. Especially if alcohol or other substances are involved, intentions could be misinterpreted.

I had a male roommate. There was no weirdness or sexual tension, but that might be because we simply did not get along! Almost from the start he had issues with me. However, I'm quite sure that was just a personal thing and not a male roommate thing.

I have to add that there is not always that "little bit of weirdness." I have mainly male friends and while there has been a level of sexual tension and occasionally sexual involvement with a couple over the years, with the vast majority of guys I know there is nothing like that. A good example of this is my friend Randy -- he's been a close friend of mine since I was 14, he was my prom date and I was his, but there's never been anything but friendship between us. He was a bridesman in my wedding party (and the only member besides myself not named Kate). It's entirely possible to have male friends who are attracted to women in general, but not to you.

I had a male roommate, and ended up dating him for 2 years.... ...we really got along well though, and remained friends for a long time after the relationship ended. I still miss having him as a friend.
During that time, we took on other male roommates and always had trouble with them, though that could be due to the whole "three's a crowd" issue. One roommate was sorta like a "psychic vampire" sort, who was always demanding attention and invading my personal space the moment he walked through the door. I was simply not in the mood for conversation, and yet he would completely bombard me...there was no simple "co-existence" possible. He was also sort of a creepy self-obsessed sociopath...The next guy was a very spazzy hyper-social ADDer, and our personalities clashed on a fairly regular basis no matter how hard we tried to get along. I think I might have scared him off. I have lived in other more-or-less communal environments where we had male roommates, and it helped that we were not in "close quarters"..but we had trouble with bouts of bad behavior or drugs or volatile mental instability..and my favorite...the unofficial "other" roommate who is the guy's girlfriend...I had trouble with that on more than one occasion because I could never be on speaking terms with the girls...because I was never introduced to them properly, or because my personality was so odd compared to them...or even because my roommate possibly warned them of what a monster I was...or something, and i would become irritable because I would feel like an invader in my own house whenever they were hanging out in the "living area" and usually they would never ever help with any of the chores....

Anywhoo....I have had my share of trouble with female roommates...I lived with two NT"best friends" who would pick on me one of them would steal stuff from me and they eventually asked me to leave because I wasn't "cool" enough...I lived in a rooming house where the other tenants were female and one of them was fresh from the mental hospital...a paranoid schizophrenic who lived in the basement and would have occasional spells where she would become volatile..Sometimes she would come and knock at my door...I was not there for very long while she was there, so I don't remember much about her......then there was the hyper-talkative hyper-social lady in the house robe who claimed that my piano played itself when I wasn't around, and the perpetually annoyed college student who never said a word except to complain to my landlord about something I did that was bothering her...and who moved out without any notice in the middle of the night....and the skinny blonde tan party girl who used to have the room where the houserobe lady lived and would occasionally show up and crash on the couch for a few days..(my landlord was male and was particularly interested in her)

The way my place is set up, be have people who crash here, sometimes for days on end, but they don't really take part in running the place unless they are paid to do so...

No. I'd be too afraid that he'd try to sleep with me.

I've had male roommates and their gender in no way brought an element of sexuality into the living situation. They were just roommates, nothing more. Wait, now that I think of it, I've almost always lived exclusively with males. Huh. They've been typically easy for me to get along with. I had a female roommate once who hated me. Meh. To me it makes no difference the gender.

yes! I'm moving in with him next week. He's my best friend and I'm so excited.