I have a question for people with aspergers.

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ok so i have talked to other aspies about this and they all seem to have the same answer. please only people that are diagnosed with aspergers.

are you most comfortable in a group of people of the same gender or the opposite gender?

personally i would rather be in a group with the opposite gender. what about you? and why if you have a why.

and please if it is not a problem put your gender.

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Opposite, absolutely.
My boss, therapist and doctors are all female. I am male. I have always been more comfortable around females, and have tailored my life to that.
I don't know why.

thats really interesting. All of the guys i have asked say the same thing. It makes me wonder if all aspies think like that.

I think it is because there is less social pressure on someone if they are with people of the opposite gender. i'm a girl and if i am with guys i don't have to be all girly or follow girl social rules.

Unless someone has a fear or anger towards their own gender because i have seen that too.

I'm not sure if I'm male or female, but for what it's worth, I feel more comfortable around males (usually gay or bisexual males) than I do around females.

Males, definitely. They tend to be more open, and doesn't see females as "threats".

Same here. I always had an easier time with girls. They also seemed to have an easier time with me. Is that healthy, though?

I don't have a preference either way.

I would just prefer be left alone.

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i don't think it is a problem. If being around one gender makes you more comfortable then be around them as long as you know what you gender is i don't think it is a problem.

It doesn't matter for me. Either or both. I am female, and spent most of my life not _knowing_ anything about Asperger's or Autism, just that I didn't quite fit comfortably anywhere. But it didn't have much of anything to do with gender. And I am diagnosed: only a very few years ago.

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I'm really only able to sustain proper friendships with males, but with males I don't know I'm very intimidated, females I don't get entirely but a lot of girls take a shining to me because I'm "cute"(tiny framed, looks young, acts young, big dark doe eyes). Fortunately I can sustain good peer relationships with either sex at uni. My two best friends are guys, my bro and his best friend, even my dog is a dude. But I get along so well with my mum

I definitely am more comfortable in a group of guys.
I hate being with a group of other women.

While I don't mind either, it's easier for me it seems to be myself around females. It's more so that the guys I make friends with just aren't interested in any kind of intelligent conversation. I'm fine with that, though, too.

Being a gynotropic male, I prefer the company of women.

Men are icky. I can't stand their "Alpha-Male" posturing games.

Same gender. Diagnosed NVLD, so I don't know how different it is from Aspergers or not. Opposite gender isn't really "bad" and I think early in my life, like as a small child, I'd have answered opposite gender, but now, I'm so awkward with females it just makes things stressful.

I definitel prefer male friends, because I just cannot stand all that talk about fashion and designers and boys and dates. Spending the day shopping with some friends sounds like modern torture to me. Usually, females are not too keen to spend time with me either...

(diagnosed AS, female)

Given that boys and young men in school were usually the first to openly bully me and beat me up with females keeping their distance and supporting the guys, neither seems favourable.

Speaking generally, for a couple of years now men certainly seem to expect a lot social and/or girl-y behaviour from me. The issue is that they usually readily belittle me and ridicule me once they notice that I'm different.

Women tend to display plain rivalry (why though? how am I rival just because I happen to be present?) and try to take things from there which is just as annoying and exhausting but easier to grasp.

I don't understand how come that other women report they get along better with men. I believe that it's perfectly true... just, really, how are you doing it? What's the difference?